Discovering and clearly outlining your boundaries is how you love yourself: a boundary means you put your own needs over another person’s demands on you.

Learning how to state your boundaries is really necessary, really difficult and an act of courage. It implies you have to love yourself and respect your needs enough to say “I am willing to disappoint you. If you think less of me or lose interest in me because of this, so be it. I love you but would rather lose you than lose myself.”

When your boundaries are respected, you are respected. You feel heard and seen.

When they are not respected, you feel resentful, anxious, stressed, confused and unsafe.

Good, respected boundaries = healthy relationships.

 

-Dushka Zapata