Unknown Things About Me

 

1. I was bullied when I was a kid. I was living in Bareilly back then, and was around 10 years old, when I became the target of a bully who lived in my colony. He and his gang of 5–6 other kids used to pull my hair and hit me on the head in the school bus. They ensured I had no friends in my childhood days, and made my life miserable for more than a year. It probably worked out well for me in the end, because I started devoting my time to studies as a kid instead of playing.
2. When I was 13 years old, I was diagnosed with severe dengue and jaundice at the same time. I was hospitalized on and off over a period of 6 months, during which I had blood tests taken twice a day. I was fed intravenously, and was on the verge of a coma. I used to initially shout in pain when the needles pierced my arm, but slowly became immune to the pain. This incident, along with the bullying incident, defined my childhood to a large extent, and made me strong and focused.
3. I have a Masters in Management degree from EBS Business School, Germany also, which I got when I went there on a dual degree exchange from IIM Ahmedabad. Very few people know about this since I don’t mention this degree anywhere on my resume in India as it is not very relevant here.
4. I am addicted to coffee. I need coffee in the morning to start my day. I feel uneasy and irritated if I don’t have my coffee on time in the morning.
5. I am not always as sorted as people think I am. I have my weak moments as well. There are times when I feel stressed out because things don’t go according to plan. There are moments when I feel lost and can’t decide what to do. What keeps me going is that I always try to look at the bigger picture and keep pushing myself towards my goals.

-Rohan Jain

I am in my late 20s and realized that I wasted a lot of time

 Two kinds of people would be reading this answer:

1. Who want sympathy and assurance that you still got time left.
2. People who genuinely believe they have wasted their time and want to make a genuine effort to achieve something.

If you are the 1st person then I’m sorry, this answer is not for you.

If you belong to the 2nd group then this answer might help you.

Lets go by facts and logic rather than blindly saying “ohh, you have a lot of time still left”.

No matter if you are in your 20s, 30s or 40s. If you feel like you have wasted past X years of your life means it’s a fact and cannot be changed.

The good thing though is that you have a realisation of the time you have wasted, unlike other people who are still delusional.

The very first thing you would need to do is to accept the fact and later analyse the cause of why exactly have you wasted X precious years of your life.

1. Analyse what went wrong:

Were you lazy? or were you engaged in some activities which consumed your time?

What exactly was the thing which made you waste your time.

Were you spending all your time on social media or were you in a relationship which took all the time away from you.

Once you are done finding the culprit, half your job is done.

2. Find a way to fix it:

Once you know what’s holding you back, you need a way to fix it.

If you feel you waste time because you are glued to phone all day, you cannot simply change that by saying “ohh, from tomorrow I will spend less time on my phone”.

We all know that never works, there needs to be some serious action taken against the thing which is wasting your time.

Like switching off your phone or using a dumb phone instead of a smartphone.

Extreme times call for extreme measures.

If there is something which has wasted years of your life then you won’t get rid of it unless you take extreme measures.

3. Keep track of your time:

Get a wrist watch and a journal, track your activity by every hour.

Note everything you have done in your journal by every hour.

I know it sounds silly but you won't be able to tell if you have improved unless you have some metrics to measure your performance.

Review your time journal at the end of the day to see how you did.

Once you do it for about a week you will realise how well you did and it will give you a sense of satisfaction and you will feel in control of your time.

4. Achievement comes from efforts:

People tell me, I’ve invested X months on gaining a skill or X years working on my business yet I am not successful.

The reality of the situation is they are tracking the wrong metric, what really counts are the efforts.

You can achieve more than other people in the same about or even less time by putting in more effort.

To sum it up:

Realise, analyse, fix, track and put in the effort and you should be good.

Hope this helps.

  -Saurav Sharma

It is easy to succeed

Don't you ever imagine, what changes you could have made if you could make a trip to your past?

Then why do something unimportant in present to think the same in future?

We always think about making our life meaningful and beautiful in some or the other way. We all enjoy and cherish our childhood without any purpose or fear. But now when we grow up, with wisdom and a proper mindset, one must attach a purpose to his or her life.

Life should not end with a bundle of regrets, rather it should be a book of gratitude and moments of feeling proud of not giving up , sacrificing little pleasures and working hard to achieve everything you aspired for.

If you attach that feeling to ESE, then during times of demotivation, remember it is not going to be easy.

But giving up is for the coward, Respect time, unleash your potential and start studying again.

Had it been so easy, everyone could have cleared it. More than preparing for the exam, you need to prepare your mind every single day to stick to your goal. Develop that inner strength.

If you are exhausted, stop for a while. We all need to relax and rejuvenate. But begin again with double the zeal.

So according to me, the biggest source of motivation is the meaning and purpose you attach to a thing or goal.

If something is important, it is important. All the excuses will hold no place.

Always remember, what your capacity is not able to achieve, your willpower will.

All the best

-Shuchita Arora, UPSC ESE AIR 16

It is easy to succeed

No one cares about my Happiness And I Always Sacrifice my wants and needs................

Life is hard. Really hard. Finding my way takes grit and mostly means two things:

Making a distinction between what works for “everyone” and what works for me.

Finding the presence of mind to disappoint others in the name of standing up for myself.

People pleasing is disguised as generosity but really it’s avoidance. It’s constant, relentless escape from doing the hard work of not compromising myself.

The price is to not clearly understand who I am, to let people walk all over me, to feel full of bitterness and resentment and to wonder why I feel I am in the wrong life.

I am in the wrong life because if I people please I don’t understand how to set boundaries and constantly allow others to make decisions for me.

Love yourself. Love yourself enough to know you are worth not betraying yourself in the name of getting others to approve of you.

-Dushka Zapata