Please hear me out on this. This is so important

I don’t see myself getting married anytime soon (if ever.) But I’ve experienced this first hand.

If you are a woman who is married, about to get married, or even dreams of getting married, please make sure you have an education or a means to make money.

I understand if you want to be a stay-at-home mom or not be the main source of income. Feminism is about giving you that choice, and if it’s what you truly want, have at it.

But please for the sake of your future-have a side business, or an education, or some form of a career you can jump into if need be.

So many marriages start out great and progress into something completely different.

Maybe the man you wouldn’t dream could hurt a fly has no trouble taking his anger out on you.

Maybe he cheats on you.

Or maybe after 20 years you two have grown so far apart you no longer see a future together.

This is where your education and career is important.

If you have no career or money prospects, you’re essentially betting your entire livelihood on one man.

I’ve seen women who stay in horrible, abusive situations and relationships, simply because they have no other option. They feel trapped and extremely unhappy…but it’s all they’ve got. They’re living out a nightmare.

And I want you to be able to leave a relationship if that’s what you need.

I don’t want you to feel trapped within your own life. Suffocated. I don’t want you to have to put up with anything less than what you are worth.

So please, Find a way to make money if need be.

And if your relationship is going well, you’re still not exempt from a similar horror. Maybe he becomes extremely ill and is unable to work or passes away. How are you going to provide for yourself and your family?

Life has many ways of falling apart. I want you to be prepared for a it.

So please, Find a way to make money!

This goes without mentioning the stress this puts the man under. Honestly I feel as though this is a huge reason why men have a shorter life-span. With the man being so pressed to make a living, he may continue in a job he despises, stay away from a career that has high earning potential because of the low starting income, or worse yet completely give up on his dreams in life. It has a cost for all within the family.

I wish money didn’t rule the world…but it truly does.

(Sorry for the depressing read, I just really think it’s something that needs to be said. And sometimes, the things we need to hear are not what we want to hear. But they are still important.)

Genius doesn’t exist

Genius doesn’t exist.

I, like many people, just believed my brain wasn’t wired to do certain things or think certain ways. I thought I was just naturally bad at coding, thermodynamics, and learning languages among other things. I thought other people were more gifted than me in certain areas. A book I read changed that belief in me forever.

When human babies are born, we’re kind of idiots compared to the rest of the animal kingdom. A baby horse can walk, drink, and eat all by itself an hour after its born. Meanwhile, human babies can’t even stop themselves from drooling. This is actually really cool because we’re born to adapt to literally anything! If humans were born with the ability to dog sled, that’d be really useful in Alaska but pretty worthless in Thailand. If we were born with the ability to program computers, that’d be a super useful skill today but worthless 100 years ago. A horse is born with almost everything it’ll ever need to know in its lifetime where we’re hardwired to learn everything. We are the only species designed to adapt to any environment and any time period.

The way we learn skills is through something in our brain called myelin. Myelin acts as a sort of insulation. When we do something correctly, like swing a golf club well for the first time, neurons in our brain fire and signals myelin begins to wrap around those neural pathways. This myelin can wrap up to 50 times and it increases our processing power by 3,000 times. This is why when you begin to golf, you have to think of every step (raise the club over your head, keep your eye on the ball, keep your arms straight, etc) to swing correctly and your movements are awkward and slow. But two years down the road, after you’ve practiced a long time, you step up to the ball and swing without thinking, it’s natural. In fact you are thinking, you’re just thinking at 3,000 times the speed you used to because myelin insulated that circuit. You’re thinking so fast you don’t even know you’re doing it. This is how skills are made.

The implication of this is incredible. We’re all born as blank slates, therefore we’re all born at the same level, therefore we’re all capable of anything. Genius is a myth. Mozart, often called a musical genius, was estimated to have been exposed to 3,500 hours of musical training by his composer father by the time he was 6 years old. This puts his first composition at the realm of impressive but not unobtainable skill. Michelangelo trained under a master artist for ten years before he himself was allowed to create masterpieces. Savants, known for their ability to perform astronomical calculations in their heads, are able to practice calculations ceaselessly in their heads while appearing to be in a conversation or doing nothing. None of these people had or have superior brains, they just all had astronomical amounts of practice.

Well what about that person who just seemed to naturally learn calculus better than you? Myelin transfers. Neural circuits useful in one skill transfer to others. So though you both may have never studied calculus before, that person has learned a related subject that helped him pick this one up easier. That naturally athletic person has played a sport their whole lives that developed hand eye coordination which transferred to many sports. Nobody was naturally born better than you mentally, they just practiced in some way you haven’t.

I can learn anything and I know that now. I wasted too much time not trying things because I believed I couldn’t do them. This knowledge changed the way I approach everything. The question is no longer “Can I do it?” but rather “Am I willing to put in the time to learn it?”

-Charissa Enget

Education, especially awareness is very important.

Let me tell you an incident of what happened at our hospital during orthopedics posting.

A woman, 56 maybe, fractured her tibia ( leg bone) while climbing trees. She fell and landed on a hard surface causing this accident.

Being in immense pain, she decided to treat it at HOME. A fractured tibia treated at home…

Anyways, she did some kind of paste, massaged it with hot oil and what not. The pain didn't go (obviously, that's not even surprising).

So she visited some local quack, who gave her some kind of cream (probably steroidal cream) and few tablets of betamethasone( once again, a steroid). That quack knew that steroids have a good effect on pain, but little did he know that steroids kill the immune system, and if the patient is diabetic, then God save her!! She is going to develop serious infection.

Which is what exactly happened..

The pain subsided, but.. She developed high fever and a dirty abscess over that area(we call it acute osteomyelitis) , sign of sepsis turning to septic shock.

The day she was admitted, she had a fever of 104 degrees, which wasn't coming down even after repeated acetaminophens.

The TLC was 35000 ( normal is 4000–11000)

She was passing no urine, sign of kidney failure ( sure sign of septic shock).

It looked something like this.

Became delirious after few hours and breathless too. Had to intubate her.

Our orthopedician decided, that only amputating the leg can save her after she became a bit stable ( performing such big surgeries when the patient is in such bad condition is wayyy to risky)

Sadly she passed away that night only.

Cause if death :- sepsis with septic shock, dyselectrolytemia and Acute kidney injury.

It's was surprising for us, as how can someone die of just a fractured tibia.. That too a closed fracture.

Now, obviously people are going to comment that she couldn't afford going to hospital where X Ray costs 1000 and doctors visit is 2000.

Now let me tell you this.

The thing is, the PHC ( primary health center) was just 15 mins away from her home, and there, everything is done for FREE. A PHC treats these cases for free. Even they would have referred the patient to the nearby Govt Hospital for operation.

She could have gotten better if she knew not to trust quacks. She could have gotten better, only if she was aware of the facilities she could avail. She could have survived if she went to the free PHC.

Someone dying of a fracture is very rare and should never have happened.

That is why, awareness and education is necessary..!!

-Pallab Roy Chowdhury

 

1. Are my dreams truly mine? — people give in to society’s vision of what they should be.
2. If I had all the money and time in the world, what would I be doing? — these things will nurture you.
3. Are my friends and family keeping me stuck? — most times it’s the ones closest to us that hold us back.
4. What do I regret the most? — learn the lessons or it will keep happening.
5. What is calling me but I am afraid to do? — asking someone out, taking a trip, etc.
6. When was the last time I was ecstatic? — notice what you were doing.
7. What’s holding me back from my dreams? — it’s usually a bullshit story.
8. Why is it holding me back? — another bullshit story.
9. Why don’t I believe in myself? — take a chance on yourself.
10. Am I in a loop? — like the mundane existence of most people.

-Rafael Eliassen

You are your own ceo........

How can I become rich?

We’re 7.6 Billion people in the world.

Growth won’t stop anytime soon.

The population is projected to grow +1 billion in the next 10 years!

Millions wake up daily and hustle to become rich.

Millions are trying to do unethical things to become rich.

Millions are trying to get elected to a government position to become rich.

Millions are in college today to find that “secret recipe” for becoming rich.

How can I become rich (stand out) in this world among billions of people?

Let me explain with a soccer analogy:

This is a perfectly LEVELED playing field.

Which team will win?

Obviously the team with the best players.

Those with the best abilities.

Those gifted to be faster and stronger, plus who work hard to master the game.

Agreed?

The advantage is obvious; a team of professional players will always win over a small high school team.

This is exactly what millions are still learning in college today: how to become “professional” soccer players.

Now picture this playing field:

Now which team will win?

It’s NOT a fair game anymore, correct?

In business it’s called DISRUPTION!

The team that scores to the left goal has to go uphill to score.

The team that scores to the right goal will score with a fraction of the effort.

What does this mean?

The world HAS changed.

The economy HAS changed.

It’s virtually IMPOSSIBLE to achieve financial wealth if you still play as a normal “soccer player”.

To understand the new rules of the game you need to learn the new rules of the Digital Age and develop a new mindset.

Let me further explain:

Wealth is NOT created by hard work anymore.

IT’S ALL ABOUT LEVERAGE! You:

Leverage other people’s time.

Leverage other people’s money.

Leverage other people’s talents.

Leverage the power of scalable tools.

Welcome to the Digital Age! New economy! New game!

Ways of creating wealth have changed:

In the Agrarian Age, wealth originated from using nature.

In the Industrial Age, wealth originated from using machines.

In the Information Age, wealth originates from using information and knowledge.

To become rich you must master the new rules, the new opportunities and play the new game!

Let me talk about kids and young people and what can damage them the most

1. Long term emotional neglect. If you are neglected by caregivers — not touched, not treasured, not seen and barely noticed, your heart will die a little every day. You will either decide you have no value or you will do whatever it takes to get the attention you crave. Both will lead to disaster.
2. Long term emotional abuse. It sounds crazy, but this may be less damaging than complete neglect. It’s bad, but at least you are real and alive and seen. Still, like the neglected child, you may grow up to be hateful, abusive yourself, or you may seek out abusive relationships because that’s all you know.
3. Substance abuse in children and teens. This is much worse than for adults, because kids are wired to develop psychologically at a fairly rapid pace. Being stoned or drunk or high interrupts the course of development. We don’t get a second chance at childhood or adolescence, even if some of the damage can be repaired later.
4. Traumatizing experiences without adequate support. Long, serious illnesses, major accidents, and big losses like a nasty divorce, can interrupt healthy development. High conflict divorce is a double whammy because kids are hurt by parental conflict, and parents may disappear into their own issues, making matters worse.
5. Being different. Kids who feel different because they are too fat, or too slow, or too clumsy, or sexually different can really suffer. Often they get only generic pep talks that minimize their pain and sense of exclusion. In our evolution, being a member of the tribe meant survival, so kids long for it. Exclusion for long periods can be seriously damaging.

-David McPhee

Government Job or Private Job ?

I was getting a higher salary in my private job when I made a transition to this public sector job in May, 2016.

Let's discuss a few things before coming to any one-sided conclusion whether the 70K private job is better than 40K government job.

• There is more at stake than just money.
• If you come from a typical middle-class family, the society expects us to crack a government exam to get tag of a successful career.
• So, since childhood we have been prepared for targeting merits and ultimately a government job.
• Government job comes with a host of other complementary benefits.
• Like medical facilities for self and dependent family members lifelong, financial and job stability.
• I even got easy loan approval for my younger brother's graduation.
• Job stability comes with some other side effects.
• Job stability has been institutionalized by various means like time-bound promotions instead of merit-based promotions, perks and bonuses depending not entirely on the performance of an individual.
• This leads to a little or almost no motivation to investment in the upskilling and learnings the latest technology and trends.
• It also leads to unskewed distribution of the work load where some are overburdened and others are free to work-at-ease. More work doesn't mean better future benefits.
• There is an evident glass-ceiling unless you come from an influential background.
• It is very difficult to get to the top management you have someone known at the top or approach to top-level influence..
• Only the performance and upskilling can take you so-far in life.

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Let's come back to question,

Which one is better, a 70K private job or a 40K government job?

The answer is both ‘yes' and ‘no'. It depends on your personality and your priorities.

My early stage career priority was to have a settled place to live with my mother and younger brother, to provide some roof over my family after my father's demise.

So, I chose a public sector firm that provided a township and a safe place to stay. It also had provided medical facilities that were easily reimbursed within a few days. My mother's health was deteriorating and she got good medical care once she started living with me here.

Here is a click of Ravan from the dussehra puja celebaration in the township.

Here is another recent photo of our township that clicked after morning walk.

Now after working for more than six years in this firm, my priorities have changed. I don't want to be in my comfort zone. I can afford a transition in my career. Moreover, I don't feel motivated enough with the work culture here.

I am investing in leaning new skills and trying to hone the skills that I already possess.

Wish me luck and if you are looking to hire, I am ready to switch.

-Pankaj Prasad , Assistant Manager-National Fertilizers Limited

Make your life interesting & here is how to do it

If you enjoy watching other people’s lives on YouTube and are entertained by it then that probably means that you don’t have enough zing in your own life. People like Bill Gates and Musk ain’t watching XYZ vlogs on YouTube, their life is a lot more interesting than that. If your life ain’t interesting then you are doing it the wrong way. And no, you don’t need to live in a mansion and have fancy cars to live an interesting life, you can be a struggling poor person who gives everything he’s/she’s got to make his/her dreams come true. That is also a way to live an interesting life. To live an interesting life, you must have a long-term goal and must be obsessed about it. Watching TV and YouTube vlogs is for regular people who want to stay all the same for their entire life. If you want to be on the path of constant improvement, you do need to make your own life interesting.

-Saurav Sharma

Hear me out

Does not cracking the IITJEE make me smaller than those who actually did it?

Does not cracking the IITJEE make me smaller than those who actually did it?

There are a lot of occasions in life where you can feel absolutely worthless.

1. You cracked JEE and joined the best IIT but got 5–6 CGPA.
2. You managed 9+ CGPA but didn’t get a high paying job.
3. You got a high paying job but the work is absolutely boring.
4. You got challenging work but the manager is a tyrant.
5. You got a great manager but the company is laying off.
6. You escaped the layoff but you are unable to find a partner.
7. You found a partner but they can’t stop comparing you with their ex.
8. You found a partner without ex but they don’t love you for what you are.
9. You found a loving partner but have a hard time conceiving.
10. You have a child but they are not healthy.
11. You have a healthy child but they won’t listen to you.
12. You have a lovely, obedient child but you get laid off.
13. You escaped layoff again but your child couldn’t crack JEE.

Life is a giant cycle of ups and downs. The lows teach you humility. The highs teach you thankfulness.

Can my future be brighter than those IITians?

My mother isn’t very educated. She has been a house wife throughout. She managed the limited household budget very well. She nurtured and took care of her children to the best of her abilities. She monitored them during their teenage. As a result, she produced 3 (three) IITians. I think she is more successful today than all 3 of us IITians put together.

Be THAT parent if you want to beat IITians. You will literally become the “mother/father of IITians” :-)

For now, love, respect and obey your parents who have been there for you all along. Their prayers and blessings can take you far far higher than what you and I can imagine.

-Imtiaz Mohammad

Changing the World

Lock in Brain

Act on the criticism

 Act on the criticism : Don’t just say “I am a lazy person, I procrastinate a lot”. Instead do something about it. Self-criticism is the first step, acting upon it is the second but more important than the first one. Once you address your flaws, act upon it. If you have certain habits which are holding you back then find ways to eradicate those. Criticising yourself alone wont do anything unless you find a fix for your problem. You wont improve yourself in a day, even in a month. The process of improvement is gradual and continuous and lifelong.

-Saurav Sharma

Self-criticism is extremely essential

Self-criticism is extremely essential :If you are someone who truly wants to improve then you need to be your only biggest critique. Being a self critique is extremely hard and not a lot of people can be one. You cannot improve unless you know whats holding you back from achieving your true potential. Analyse what habits are holding you back. Im sure you must have a habit that you know is holding you back and you know that you should do something about it but when you think about it, you feel guilty and try to ignore it on purpose. criticism can be harsh, it can make you depressed for a while but is extremely essential for self-improvement. Its like that bitter pill you need to take when you get sick, it tastes terrible but it will make you better.

Changing Yourself or Changing the World ?

 You are asking to compare two things which are incomparable.

• Changing the world is impossible.
• Changing the self is immediately possible.

Most people waste their life trying to change the world and in the process they themselves change to fit into the world.

No one can change the objective world, which always consists of good as well evil. .

• Many great saints, prophets and even Avatars of God tried to change the world, through love and spiritual knowledge but they failed.
• Many philosophers tried to change the world by giving the world new thoughts, but they too failed to change the world.
• Many kings and tyrants tried to change the world by sword and terror, but they also failed.
• Many revolutionaries tried to change the world by overthrowing the rulers and they too failed.

The objective world is never going to change.

However, it possible to change your subjective world to a great extent.

And that can be done by changing yourself.

• If you become good, the world becomes good to you.
• If you become evil, the world becomes evil to you.

Hence, be the change that you wish to see in the world.

When you make yourself good, your world becomes good to you, though the same world would continue to remain evil for other people who are themselves evil.

-Awdhesh Singh

If a cab driver makes more money than an IT professional, why should I study?

Karma's Role In Unemployment

Regrets...........

If a cab driver makes more money than an IT professional, why should I study?

 You should continue to study so that you would understand what false equivalence is and how to avoid falling into it.

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So these are the gems that your finding-A cab driver makes more money than an IT professional-ignores:

1. An entry level cab driver might make more money than the IT professional, but a senior-level IT professional would have more relaxed life, more vacations, more rooms in the house, more money in stocks, gold and bank than a senior-level cab driver.
2. All cab drivers, regardless of age or experience, generally earn a fixed rate per trip. In contrast, a high-level IT professional can earn 10 to 100 times more than someone just starting out in the industry.
3. If you're unhappy in IT, you can always switch to driving a cab. But if you start as a cab driver and later realize your assumptions were wrong, transitioning into IT becomes significantly harder.
4. Your knowledge compounds in IT. Based on your projects and work experience, you grow up the ladder. And this compounded knowledge results in more money. As cab driver, well, your knowledge is stagnant and your income depends on inflation and not on your skill.
5. Your IT job has paid holidays, medical leave and health insurance. As cab driver, if you don’t work, no pay.

So

The thing is

Choose right data and derive right conclusions to take right decisions.

-Srinath Nalluri

Average Student ?

I can't make profit on my shop......

9 to 5 Job

 You are a lucky person if you have to work only from 9 to 5 i.e. for 8 hours, perhaps for 5 or 6 days in a week.

There are millions in this world like housemaid, housewives, labourers, guards, cops who have virtually no working hour and no scheduled holidays.

You must appreciate that every single working day, you have 16 hours at your disposal and you have 24 hours at your disposal on the weekends, holidays and leaves.

The number of free days you can enjoy in a year would be in the range of 100-150 days.

What a lucky person you are?

You have reasons to be happy and satisfied with so much time and resources at your disposal.

Millions of people would consider themselves lucky, if they can get your job.

When you are working 9 to 5 job, you also don’t have to worry about the health of the company because you can always change your job.

You also get sufficient money as salary to live a decent life and take care of your family.

The real problem with 9 to 5 job is that almost everyone you see around yourself has it.

Hence, you don’t feel special being an employee as you have nothing great to boast off.

You have been conditioned to believe that you are a special person who deserve something special in this world.

Hence, you feel ordinary and common doing the same thing over and over again and get bored.

Many people leave their jobs and start their own company or business to get rid of this routine.

However, most of them end up making their life worse rather than better for the following reasons.

• According to Bloomberg, 8 out of 10 entrepreneurs who start businesses fail within the first 18 months Thus 80% new entrepreneur lose all their savings, get burdened by debt and then back to 9 to 5 job soon.
• When you start your business, you have to work 12-14 hours a day for almost 7 days in the week. Even when you are not going to the office, you are working from home.
• You have to worry about cash flow, office rent, competitors, and employees all the time.
• You have to worry about the legal compliance of your company and managing with tax payments etc.

If you decide to follow your passion and choose to become a writer, painter, singer, actor, musician etc., you struggle for earning your bread and butter until you reach to the top.

Don’t get fooled by the success of a few in these fields by listening to the interviews of those who have made it to the top.

For every successful person in the glamourous profession, there are hundreds who are struggling with life in these areas.

Learn to appreciate and value what you have rather than running after illusions and making your life miserable.

Instead of thinking that you are stuck in your job for the rest of my life, realize that your living is assured for life thanks to your job.

-Awdhesh Singh

How much time to prepare for a Govt Job ?