Unhealthy relation with self........

I don’t think we have the most unhealthy relationship with ourselves.

What I think is our relationship with ourselves sets the tone for every other relationship.

I try to be the person others want me to be, instead of the person I really am.

I believe every story my ego spins. That I’m not enough, that I’m stuck, that other people have better lives than mine.

I try to look for success and fulfillment outside of myself: a better house, a better car, a good husband. I will value myself when I get promoted. I will value myself when I have children.

If I look for people who can save me, fix me or approve of me I am likely to feel stuck or like I have no control over what happens to me. I feel overwhelmed and approach my relationships with despair.

If I don’t know how to set boundaries I cannot respect the boundaries of another, since I don’t understand them and interpret them as a form of rejection.

If I disregard my own feelings I am likely to show little empathy for the feelings of another.

If I don’t take responsibility for myself, my decisions, my actions, I blame others for my circumstances and become increasingly powerless and bitter.

If I make commitments to myself and fail me, I am likely to fail others.

Self love - asking myself what I can give to myself, questioning my own stories, assuming full responsibility for everything I am, following through on the promises I make to myself - will recast everything.

-Dushka Zapata