Judging Others....

Judging others - how they act, what they say, what they wear - is a universal habit designed to feed our ego.

We make others small to feel big.

Look. Look how much better I am. Look how much better I do.

Judging is an unimaginative way to make ourselves feel like we belong. Those people, we say. They are not like us.

It underlines what makes us separate, instead of reminding us we are the same.

The act of judging comes from insecurity and is a symptom of unhappiness. If you are truly happy you don't need to cut others down to size or put down the choices others have made.

Speaking ill of others, even as a joke, as a way to pass time, shows people how you will one day come to speak of them and makes them wonder if you can be trusted.

The habit of judging is worth breaking for all these reasons but also because it continuously trains your brain to be critical. It narrows your vision.

You make it increasingly difficult for yourself to see the good in others, and consequently, the good in you.

  -Dushka Zapata