You Star Loosing Friends When You Become More Successful in Life. Really ?

  The simple answer is: Yes.

 

But for a different reason than you expect.

It is not because you are turning into a jerk that doesn't need these people anymore, but rather because you realize that the people you considered “friends” are keeping you down.

  

They keep thinking the same thoughts, taking the same actions, doing the same things that keeps leading them to the same results. These are results that you have outgrown.

  

Sticking around these people makes it so that you fall back into old habits, become more like them, model them and then create similar results to them. Meaning: You become who you used to be again.

 

While that is not a bad thing, it’s most of the time not something people want.

 

They have worked hard to get where they are and keeping old friends around means going back into old habits they’d rather avoid.

You outgrow them, that is all.

 

But they will also notice that and will feel less connected to you.

They will tell you you’ve changed, will blame you for whatever they can, and often try to bring you back to their level not out of spite or jealousy, but rather to feel better about their own life.

 

It is for those reasons that the friendships you used to have stop being as important as they used to be, and, over time, you loose the interest to put in the effort to keep these people in your life.

 

But you will find others that are on a similar path to you that will push you to be your greatest, test your limits and keep trying to raise you up as they raise themselves.

 

There are various reasons why you may loose friends, but the general idea is that in creating a different life you create different interests and people do not wish to keep you as a reminder of where they could be.

It is for that that, as by a self-fulfilling prophecy, you loose the connections you used to have.

 

But, in my opinion, that does not devalue those relationships at all. They have given you a lot of amazing moments, and sometimes it is time to let things go.

 

You will loose a lot of friends on your journey to success, and have to sacrifice many things, but often for other, better things.

It is a give and take, and, overall, it is a much better trade-off than you can imagine!

 

“Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something better will take it’s place.” - Lance Armstrong

   

    -Lukas Schwekendiek