Negative thoughts must be replaced, not removed.
Before I tell you why, I want to say I am proud of you for recognizing that your thoughts are negative. People go their entire lives filling their head with negativity and fail to think about what they’re thinking about.
Negative thoughts cannot be removed. They can only be replaced.
The Law of Conservation says matter cannot magically appear or disappear, it simply changes from one form to another.
Your thoughts work similarly.
You cannot force your thoughts to be removed from your mind. But go ahead, try it—
Remove your thoughts.
Think of nothing.
Did it work?
If it worked, stop reading right here.
If your brain, like normal people, continued to whir thoughts around in your head then here’s the solution to “removing” negative ones.
The solution to removing negative thoughts is to replace them with positive ones.
It’s natural to have negative thoughts. We get anxious before a first date, we worry about our loved ones, and so on. It’s human.
And so it happens to all of us.
The next time you find yourself having negative thoughts, immediately replace it with a positive one.
If you were thinking “I don’t know if he’ll like me, we only talked on the phone before, what if he thinks I’m weird in person” — cut that shit out and instead feed your mind the winning thought of “we’re having a date because he’s interested in getting to know me and I know we’ll exchange some great stories.”
Your thoughts are so powerful.
Whether you decide to fill your head with negative ones or positive ones, it shapes your view of the world and how you respond to life.
Your actions, your feelings, your perspectives and you beliefs stem from your thoughts.
Sticking to the first date metaphor, if you keep thinking that he’ll think you’re weird, I bet that on your first date, you’re going to say something odd or show strange behavior because your brain wants to fulfill what you’re feeding it.
The worst thing you can do with negative thoughts is try to remove them from your mind with force.
It’s ineffective and wears you down.
In Psycho-Cybernetics, Dr. Maxwell Maltz writes, “A ‘bad’ feeling is not dispelled by conscious effort or willpower… concentrate on positive imagery— on filling the mind with wholesome, positive, desirable images, imaginations, and memories. If we do this, the negative feelings take care of themselves. They simply evaporate. We develop new feeling-tones appropriate to the new imagery.”
I hope this helps.
I just finished reading Psycho-Cybernetics and it is a classic.
Rooting for you, always.
-Kaila J. Lim
{ Blogger's Note : See if the negative thoughts are based on reality, if They are then try to address the cause }
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