I can say I love everything, everything about a person before I get to know them well.
This is because I love who I imagine them to be, not who they actually are.
As
I get to know them, who they truly are begins to replace my fantasy.
And then, ugh. I love them, but they are irritating, annoying, selfish,
thoughtless, whatever.
Because, why are they who they are, instead of what I thought?
Why do they love me how they love, instead of how I imagined they would?
Why don’t they do what I expected?
And, even worse, why are they so disappointed with my inability to be who they thought I was?
Be
careful when you say you love everything about a person.
Make sure that
who you love is the other, and not your fabulous overactive
imagination. Because, that’s not romantic love.
That’s projection, and it’s what we do.
-Dushka Zapata
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