Don't Rely On Anyone to Fight Your Battles

I have a story. I usually do.

Years ago, I was dating a guy who had a friend who for some reason couldn't stand me. He took every opportunity to slam me for one reason or another. He would do this in front of my boyfriend, Jim. There were times I could sense that it bothered Jim but I believe he wanted to side more with his buddy than me so he wouldn't look bad to his friend. I tried several times to get Jim, this guy who was supposed to love me, to tell his friend to knock it off but to no avail.

One day, when I was alone with this friend, Frank, I got in his face and asked him what it was about me that he couldn't stand. I wanted him to tell me why he hated me so much that he felt he had to belittle me every chance he got. It took Frank off guard. I could see in his face he was shocked at my direct question. He actually said he didn't know. He apologized and from then on we were fine.

If your husband won't stick up for you, maybe it's time for you to stand up for yourself. You shouldn't have to deal with that kind of behavior and your husband shouldn't want you to have to deal with it either. If your taking control doesn't fix the problem then you need to have a big girl talk with your husband. I don't give a piss what people want to label another individual. It doesn't excuse bad behavior.

Don't rely on anyone to fight your battles. Fight them yourself. Go to bat for yourself. If this situation were happening to me today, the outcome would have been much different. I would have shut it down a long time ago. I was in my twenties when this took place. Age and wisdom have replaced those young girl insecurities.

Tell this man yourself he's not welcome in your home unless he changes his attitude. Don't forget, you live there too.