I knew this colleague of mine. She always fell for unavailable and married men. Always. I knew her for almost 4 years and I always found her dating already "taken" guys.

Was she bad? Was she insecure?

No.

The reason was "Pattern" - She had a troubled childhood. Her dad was a famous lawyer and always remained unavailable for his kids and wife. So this woman grew up believing that men always remain unavailable. We have such behavioral patterns - we don't even realise and it captures our lives. Our future. Our present.

So understand these patterns in your life. It can be anything. Your relationship with food or mother or friend - you will realise that often we do things when our mind is in auto-pilot mode because It is easier to follow a pattern than actually changing it.

Do this one thing.

Identify patterns in your life in all spheres. Relationship, parents, career, friends, money and health. You will realise that your life is already easy if you do what needs to be done - it becomes difficult only when you get carried away with patterns.

-Kruti Naik