Monday, 2 November 2020

"I Was Born With an Abnormality That Affects 1 in a Million People. It's Untreatable, So........

"I was born with an abnormality that affects one in a million people. It's untreatable, so I grew up listening to comments like 'lula', which meant disabled. My schoolmates laughed at the way I ate or held a pencil. So I'd sit in a corner to avoid them. I was a lonely kid without any friends, and cried at home everyday; questioning– why me? No one had an answer. 
 
In Grade 7, a teacher, who'd seen the bullying, called me in front of the class and asked, 'Rohit, do you want to tell your classmates anything?' I broke down. After that, people began talking to me, but only out of sympathy. But soon after, I switched schools. 
 
There, I was scared. I'd wear full sleeved shirts and walk with my hands in my pockets to hide them. But finally when my classmates saw me holding a pen, they just said, 'We don't care.' It felt surreal, to finally be accepted after so long of being sidelined. But in junior college, things took a bad turn.
I started wearing half sleeved shirts again and walking the way I do normally– that’s when the imitation started. I'd try to ignore and develop a thick skin, but it still affected me and my grades took a hit. I barely managed to pass. 
 
My parents were my only support. They'd comfort me and say, 'These things don't matter.’ The only thing that mattered was who I was, as a person and what I made of myself. So I began preps for MBBS and studied 18 hours a day, 7 days a week– I simply didn’t have time for the haters. A year later, I got into the program on my first attempt! Dad just said, 'Finally all those hours paid off!'
 
I was excited for a fresh start. In the first year, I asked a girl out, but her friends told her, 'He has a deformity!' But she didn't care, and we were together for 5 years. 
 
  
It didn't work out between us, but medical school completely changed me. I found things I was good at– like presentations, debates, organizing conferences. And with each task I undertook, my confidence rose. 
 
I realised there was more to me– beyond how I walked or ate; things that actually made a difference. Like for one of the courses, we had to dissect a body. And out of my whole group, I did most of the task– it became about the little achievements. 
 
Over the years, my passion for serving others has only grown. So currently I'm doing my Masters and am a doctor in training– I work on the frontlines to treat Covid patients. 
 
My friends and parents worry about me because even the way I hold an injection is different, but it doesn't matter. I'm still able to help people and save lives; and if I'm doing it a little differently, that's okay. Afterall, I’m one in a million."
 

Sunday, 1 November 2020

Emotionally Exhausted & Physically Tired Because of That?

A codependent dynamic is, by definition, a system where I give more than I have.

I constantly ignore or neglect my own limits and my own needs in a search for approval or love, hyper-focused on how the other is reacting to the point of obsession.

I eventually lose the ability to determine or articulate what I think or how I feel.

I measure my own worth through how others define me, which means I spend a lot of energy managing things I can’t control, such as what other people think of me.

I experience high levels of stress, as “ordinary statements” such as “I will see you tomorrow!” make me feel I’m being abandoned in a remote location forever.

I feel uneasy alone, which means I cancel out my own ability to recharge.

Of course I invariably end up exhausted.

The antidote - the cure - is not a quick fix. It’s a new way of life.

It’s setting boundaries. Learning to say no, despite the fear and discomfort.

It’s learning how to be alone even if in the beginning it feels painful, since this is when I can listen and put into words my needs, my thoughts, my inner voice.

It’s following through on what I say I am going to do, which involves discipline and healthy habits. This way I show myself I can trust me.

It means placing more weight on what I think of me, instead of what others think of me.

It takes practice, and coming back to it again and again.

This is the only way I know to un-exhaust myself.

 -Dushka Zapata

Saturday, 31 October 2020

Manipulative Person


Once upon a time, when I and my friend were looking for an additional housemate for one unoccupied room, one guy came to check the house.

He wanted to do certain things in the house which weren't okay with us. These were some of his lines during the conversation.

  • ‘It is difficult for you guys to keep the room unoccupied for longer time.’
  • ‘You might have to pay rent for additional room if you don’t find the tenant on time.’
  • ‘This is not vacation period. So finding tenant should be a headache right. Hope it ends soon for you.’
  • ‘You should be already busy with work. This housemate hunting should be an added trouble for you.’

Was he our friend?

No.

Did we know him before?

No.

Then why the hell he was showing concern for us?

One of the most common and first step manipulative people do is to tell you the benefits you would be getting.

They act concern and care towards you.

They illusionise you with all the advantages so that you won’t think about the drawbacks.

From insurance agents to salesmen to real estate agents to backstabbers, this is a very very basic trick they use.

Look out for it.

 


 

Friday, 30 October 2020

I’ve Always Been Naturally Smart

 

I’ve always been naturally smart.

Well, I don’t actually believe anyone is naturally good at anything. But growing up, I had a mom who read to me every night. By the time I was four years old, I could read very fluently and I devoured books. My mom also made me practice math facts in the car.

 

So, when it came to school, I got A’s without ever studying. I excelled in reading, math, and science just by paying attention in class and doing my homework.

I graduated with a 4.2. I even got a 31 on my ACT without studying a bit.

Upon graduating, I applied to engineering school at OSU.

Classes began and I paid attention in class and did my homework like I always had. Then, I failed my entire first round of tests.

For the first time in my life, I realized I had to study. My natural smarts were not going to be enough. And I realized, I didn’t know how to study.

It was weird, asking others how they studied for tests. They went through and resolved homework problems. I couldn’t believe they did homework twice. They did study guides. They made flashcards.

And I, for the first time, had to learn both the discipline, techniques, and focus it required to study for tests. Engineering is the reason I learned how to study well.

 

Also, it’s well known in engineering that many professors are absolutely horrible teachers, but they bring so much money through research to the university that they never get fired. I had such bad professors with such hard tests, I had to teach myself subjects like Thermodynamics or Materials Science. It was then that I learned how to teach myself anything.

Teaching yourself is a skill, many people don’t learn anything because they believe they can’t learn without a teacher. It holds many people back.

 

Now, I’ve taught myself two languages. I’ve taught myself coding and web design. I’m learning to build an app.

I don’t believe I could have taught myself any of those things without studying engineering.

Engineering changed my life by teaching me how to study, how to gain discipline and work hard, and how to teach myself anything.

 

 -Charissa Enget,Mechanical and Energy Engineer

Sunday, 25 October 2020

Meet This Man.........


Meet this man
 
He is Akshansh Gupta
 
 




  •  Akshansh Gupta, 32 completed his PhD from India’s prestigious Jawaharlal Nehru University, Delhi in 'Brain Computer Interface' in the department of Computer and System Sciences.    
  • Akshansh Gupta has cerebral palsy, a neurological condition that severely limits his movements and speech capability. He cannot walk, operate his own wheelchair or even feed himself.
  • He is 95% disabled.
  • He had done his B.Tech, M.Tech and PhD in Computer Science
  • His lower limbs are of no use, his slurred speech is difficult to decipher.
  • He had travelled to Malaysia to present a paper on his chosen subject of computer science.
  • Recently he founded a company and now actively working along with two fellow PhD scholars from JNU.
  • The company called IRADA( Integrative Research Analysis and Development Academy), that aims to promote education and research for the school students as well as PhD scholars.
  • But this fairy tale is not that much of easy.
When I saw my siblings go to school, I wanted to do likewise. But in my condition, which school would admit me?

  Almost 95% Disability Couldn’t Stop This Gritty UP Lad From Getting a PhD

In general in our country the attitude towards people with disabilities is quite negative.

 

The first thing people ask is, “ what will you gain by studying?”

 

“I feel that if you’re determined, you can achieve anything. But you have to take the first step, Until you do that, you cannot expect the world to support you”                                     -Akshansh Gupta Told BBC

 

  • He has an extraordinarily mind and he always wanted to prove that disability was a myth. 
  • He is the person who wears many hats of achievements. He is the person who as a single man's army, challenged the UGC for its anti-disabled policies and ultimately forced it to roll back the regressive measures

 
Be busy in your task and mind your own business.
 
Don’t expect that you got appraisals from everyone for what you’re doing.
 
Just remember that you’re living your life in your own timeline. Someone is early, someone is late it’s not a very big deal. Never compare your life with others.
  

Learn from the experiences & mistakes of other.You dont have to re-invent the wheel.
 
Worrying about something after all is NOT the Solution. So, it’s a waste of time.
  
The only way to overcome problems is to work hard & smart and develop a  Never Give Up Attitude.
   
           So, if he can do this, I think anyone can do anything. And there is no need to worry about your problems rather find ways  about how to overcome and solve those problems. Your problems are too small if you try to look with a naked eye and a positive mindset and such  people are doing great in their life.
 

  1. 95% disabled, JNU scholar battles huge odds to get PhD | India News - Times of India
  2. Akshansh's PhD: India man who didn't let cerebral palsy win
  3. Almost 95% Disability Couldn’t Stop This Gritty UP Lad From Getting a PhD
  4. World Disability Day: A salute to the scholar who fought cerebral palsy to complete his PhD
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Do Smart +  Hard Work
 &  Dedicate Your Time to Something Sublime }

Saturday, 24 October 2020

Let Me Share My Own Method of improving Time Management, by Breaking....

Let me share my own method of improving time management, by breaking down the abstract concept of time management into 3 areas to tackle. This has proven extremely effective for me in the past.
In the world of management consulting, especially when it comes to consulting in the manufacturing sector, there is a concept we focus on quite a bit, called OEE.
OEE stands for “overall equipment effectiveness”, and helps to break down the problem of improving the effectiveness of a machine into simple and relatable terms.
There are 3 constituents of OEE: availability, utilization and productivity. Simply put, improving the effectiveness of a machine boils down to improving the amount of time the machine is available, improving the percentage of time the machine can be utilized when it is available, and the productivity of that machine when it is being utilized.
Let us apply the same concept to our own lives.
  • Availability: The number of hours per day available to a human being to be utilitized are basically 24 hours minus the number of hours the person needs to sleep. This is because sleeping is an essential activity, without which the human brain cannot work. The number of hours one needs to sleep optimally is a debatable topic, but let us assume that 8 hours is the optimum figure. I believe one can function well with less sleep also, but most research says 8 hours is the optimum sleeping time, so let us go with 8 hours. Hence, the number of hours available to a person can be maximum 16 hours. If you are sleeping for more than 8 hours, you are simply wasting time. That is the first lever to improve your time management skills.
  • Utilization: Now that you have 16 hours available in a day, how many hours do you actually utilize? For the sake of simplicity, let us assume that when you sit on your desk to work, or when you take out time to pursue some hobby, you are utilizing your time. The only time you are not utilizing is the time spent without doing anything. The idle time spent lying around. Reduce or eliminate your idle time. Ensure you always have something to do in your time, be it work, hobbies or meeting friends. That is the second lever to improve your time management skills.
  • Productivity: Now that you are utilizing your time doing an activity, how productive are you actually? If you spend 3 hours sitting at your desk working, do you actually get the output worth 3 hours or do you get an output worth only 2 hours? In my mind, this is the trickiest lever to resolve. How do you ensure that you are being productive? There are two aspects to productivity.
    • Being able to concentrate well - I strongly believe it all boils down to your mental space. If your mental space is clear and less cluttered, you will be more productive. If your mental space is filled with irrelevant thoughts, negativity, or a lot of emotion, you will be less productive. Get rid of negative thoughts, get rid of irrelevant emotions, and get rid of distractions. And you will find yourself improving your concentration.
    • Planning your time well - Every activity has a different perceived value. You might have utilized your time fully and also concentrated well on the activity, but just choosing the wrong activity will reduce your productivity. Plan your day ahead so that you can cover all the activities that you want to pursue, be it work or hobbies. Plan ahead, and plan well.
The human brain is very complex, and we tend to get lost in the complexity. But if you simplify the human brain and think of it like a machine, you will find yourself much more capable of mastering your brain and thus your time.

-Rohan Jain,IITK, 2011-2015, IIMA 2015-17

Friday, 23 October 2020

Persistence

 

It was bad — really bad.

I was failing in school and I wanted to give up.

I don’t know if my father asked for my grandfather’s help, but one day while visiting my grandpa’s ranch he invited me for a horse ride.

He grabbed his horse and pulled me up to ride behind him.

You’ve got to see this,” he said.

What, Grandpa?” I asked while I held on as tight as I could behind him while the horse galloped.

A couple of minutes later we got there. He helped me get off the horse.

Come see this drop of water that’s hitting this big stone.” he said pointing to the natural water source.

What about it, Grandpa?” I asked.

Look how tiny and delicate each drop is,” he indicated as drops accumulated in his hand. There’s a big lesson in each of these drops!”

I stared at him.

He continued, “These drops of water remind me of everything that I accomplished during my life. Everything that I ever achieved was because of focus and persistence. See that rock below, receiving each drop?”

Yes?” I answered.

It’s remarkable that such a tiny and delicate drop of water can beat down that tough stone. Over time, these tiny drops of water have worn and sculpted this tough rock.”

I nodded.

Your dad told me you want to give up your efforts at school. Remember this, MOST days you will feel like this drop of water that has not much significant force.”

I held my hand out to touch the dripping water.

He continued, “Dripping water sculpts stones — NOT by force, but through focused, constant, relentless persistence. Whenever you feel like giving up, remember these water droplets, Hector!”

To answer your question, do you think persistence is important? Why or why not?

Persistence is everything in accomplishing anything in life. There are NO shortcuts. Whatever you want to accomplish in life, it demands targeted, focused, persistent daily actions!

 

 

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Thursday, 22 October 2020

10 Lessons in Life : Either You Learn it by Yourself or by Observing Others

Changing your life for better is all about selecting a destination and taking one step at a time to get there. Improving your life doesn’t have to be about making a big gesture. Instead it’s about you constantly working on and how you take those small steps every day.
  1. Be Grateful
There are people wishing for the life you are living. Be grateful for it instead of complaining for the things you don’t have. You just don’t need big things happening in your life to be grateful for. Habit of being grateful starts with you appreciating for every good things in your life and there is nothing too small for you to be thankful for. Not only be thankful for the positive and good things but be thankful for difficult or negative situations because it has helped you to grow.When you are grateful fears disappears and abundance appears.
2. Have a growth mindset
When it comes to learning there are typically two kinds of people, one with fixed mindset and one with growth mindset.
People with fixed mindset usually shy from the challenges because they fear the fear or they fear to get humiliated in front of others if they fail. This can be problematic because fear of making mistakes can lead towards avoiding new experiences, challenges which can help you grow.
Whereas people with growth mindset do not fear the fear. They are ready to take challenges and never afraid to fail. They learn from their mistakes and difficult situations which helps them to grow.
3. Get out of your comfort zone
Do something everyday that scares you. Most amazing realization and discoveries are made outside your comfort zone. It’s important to push the boundaries of your comfort zone. Think big and act big.
“As you move outside of your comfort zone, what was once the unknown and frightening becomes your new normal.” — Robin S. Sharma
4. Surround yourself with positive people
People have a huge impact on your life. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. They are people that will inspire you to be a better person, provide you with motivation to achieve your goals, empower you to make the changes you need to succeed and cheer on your success.
5. Build Skills
Learn something new. Nowadays people are known for their skills. Alvin Toffler said, "The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn." That's because, in an environment where new skills emerge as fast as others fade, success is less about what you already know and more about adapting your skills by growing and expanding your knowledge base.
6. Procrastinate your procrastination
Why do people procrastinate? Because they are afraid to take action, they are afraid to make changes in their life, they are afraid to get out of their comfort zone. Procrastination is just an excuse for not taking action towards your goal. Build habits, have self discipline, create plan and take action. Nothing works if YOU don’t work.
7. Improve confidence
Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. If someone seems to have incredible self-confidence, it’s because he or she has worked on building it for years. Visualization is the technique of seeing an image of yourself that you are proud of, in your own mind. Practice visualizing a fantastic version of yourself, achieving your goals. We tend to behave in accordance with our own self-image. The trick to making lasting change is to change how you view yourself.
“What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.” -- Napoleon Hill
8. Be persistent
Developing persistence is a master skill to success. Persistence is probably one of the most admirable characters a person can possess. Many has the capacity to set goals and plans toward success, yet only few succeeds, because only few stick to work on their goals and plans until it is accomplished. Be consistent, value yourself, value your goals.
9. Learn to say NO
Saying no doesn’t mean that you are being rude, selfish, or unkind. It’s just that you value yourself, your goals and your time. If the things are not worth the time doing, say no to that things.
10. You’ve already done it by looking for the ways to improve your life
Getting serious about making improvements is a great start, and taking ACTION is the next important step.Take ACTION.
Hope It Helps! Thanks For Reading.
Hi I’m Harsh, same old kid with the same old dream to achieve something BIG.
 
-Harsh Bhanushali

Tuesday, 20 October 2020

Being Average in a Developing Country

 

Let us have a glimpse of an average person in India.

1: Income

An average person in India earns around Rs 6000-8000 ($ 100-125) per month in which he has to survive with his family. In 2012, the Indian government stated 21.9% of its population is below its official poverty limit.The World Bank, in 2011 based on 2005's PPPs International Comparison Program, estimated 23.6% of Indian population, or about 276 million people, lived below $1.25 per day (Rs 25 per day) on purchasing power parity. You can very well imagine your condition to survive in the income of an average person.

2: Housing

An average person in India lives in village in mud houses without any electricity or at the most 4-6 hours of electricity in a day. He has no LPG connection and food is cooked on wood-fire. If he is privileged to migrate to city, he lives in slums in subhuman condition similar to what is shown in picture below.

3: Education

An average person in India can’t afford to send his children in any private school. He studies in a government or municipal schools, which are in a pathetic condition with hardly any teacher to pay any attention to the student. He may pass the school because he can’t be filed upto class VIII, but his knowledge base is so little that it is of hardly any value in the job market. You perhaps have only one teacher for the entire school who also is not very regular and sincere.

4: Health Care

An average person in India can’t afford treatment in any private hospital as he has no money to pay the fee to doctor or to buy the medicine. He has no option but to go to a government hospital and wait of hours in a queue to see the doctor to get treatment, if doctor/medicine is available in the hospital. Sometime, they can’t ever survive through the common ailments due to the paucity of resources.

5: Job

Average people in India do not have a permanent job pr even the lowest level job in an organised sector. The job of a peon or even a driver is a dream to them. Most of them are employed in menial jobs in organised sectors where they work in hot sun and cold winters 10-12 hours a day to earn their living with no guarantee that they would get employment on the next day.

Avoid Being Average

If people don’t want to be average in a developing country like India, it is because their life is truly pathetic being average.

You romanticise poverty when you are rich, but you would never like to suffer this life even in your dreams.

Get out of this mediocre life as soon as you can.

Source:

Poverty in India

Pictures: Google Images

-From Dr.Awdhesh Singh's Words 

Monday, 19 October 2020

Anger & Human Behaviour

 

  • A person has the habit of banging his fist on the table hard when he is angry.
    • But he doesn’t do that when there is flimsy glass table in front of him.
  • A person has the habit of throwing whatever is there in his hand when he is angry.
    • But he may not do that when there is a $1500 brand new phone in his hand.
  • A person has the habit of kicking something in front of him when he is angry,
    • But he may not do that when there is thorn bush in front of him.

So if you notice the common-thing here,

When a person is angry— most of the times he subconsciously knows how to show it without hurting himself.

The extension of this behaviour is,

You show anger only on people whom you think are not stronger than you and who don’t have the power to harm you back.

For example:

When a server is pouring you water and it spills on your shirt, you will shout at him. But, when your boss is passing you coffee and it spills on your shirt, you might not shout. You may even smile ‘It’s okay.’

You will think twice before you show anger on someone who is more powerful than you.

But with people whom you think are lower than you or whom you take for granted, you show it effortlessly. Because you are clearly aware, they can’t hit back at you or that they will come back to you irrespective of whatever you say during anger.

  

-Srinath Nalluri

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