What Do People Underestimate Often?

Imagine one of your friends posts this picture on her social media.

Ugh, look at her body, you think to yourself. I wish I was as beautiful as her.

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The next day, you see she posts this picture with the caption “my unbiological sisters, love you girls”

Look at all her friends, she's so lucky. I wish I had friends like that.

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A few days later, this photo shows up in your feed, with another caption reading “being in love is the most amazing feeling <3”.

Of course, she has a hot boyfriend too. Can she get any better?

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Later that night, you are laying awake thinking about her again.

I wish I was like her. Pretty. Popular. In love. She just has it all.

She's perfect.

Her life is perfect.

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The reality is that nobody has the so-called perfect life we hear about all the time.

For the sake of this answer, let's say the hypothetical girl above lost her mother to a terminal illness when she was only 4.

She feels like she grew up without a mother. Every night, she lays awake missing the mother she never even knew. She even wishes she was like you, that she had a mother like you do. She would take a mother over any amount of friends.

But you don't know that.

She paints a picture of having the perfect life to others. She doesn't want anyone else to see the ugly, darker side to her life.

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What I am saying is that everyone is going through their own battle. Everyone has a dark secret(s). Everyone has something that keeps them up at night. Everyone has something they would change in their life.

Just some people hide it more than others. They feel like the only way people will like them is if they seem perfect, so they only show you the good bits.

I once knew a family. They travelled the world, were basically rich, had 2 happy kids and the parents had an amazing relationship.

I was shocked when I got to know that the mother’s ex-husband murdered her third child and is behind bars. Their life seemed perfect to an outsider, but you can only imagine what the family must go through mentally everyday.

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What do people underestimate often?

We underestimate how many people out there are going through something we don't know about.

We underestimate how much the seemingly “perfect” person could be going through deep down.

We underestimate life.

If someone tells you they have a perfect life, well then they're lying.

You can't make assumptions about people only from what you see on the outside.

Always be kind to others. You never know what they might be going through beneath the mask of “perfection”.

 -Amy Smith,Aspiring writer, teenager

 

Graduated from ECE & Wana Work at Top Companies?

 

This story preety well sums up about me. I am 2017 passed out from ECE stream. Though I passed out from NIT, due to lack of my communication and HR skills I couldn't fetch a good job in campus placement and ended up in IBM with mere 3.2LPA + 50K(bonus). Obviously I was not happy with my placement and at the time may be bit luck factor also didn't work for me(got rejected in almost 6–7 companies in HR round due to poor speaking skills and may be almost 30 companies in in between rounds).

I left college with heavy heart but I earned one thing, a bunch of good frnds that's it. I joined my first company in sept 2017 and there also was hoped for getting a good set of skills so that I can switch easily to other companies later on but ended up with mainframe technology (we all know how outdated this tech is!!). I was devastated with my life that why the hell all the wrong is happening with me. That was even okay, few of my college friends also joined IBM and I thought at the end of my training atleast I will be in Bangalore and will get good job opportunities there and friends are also there, but god had some other plans for me. I ended up getting my project in Chennai. There I didn't had a single friend to even talk to, on weekends as well(Can imagine have gone to Chennai beaches alone few a times initially). Though I have a good skill, I make myself comfortable with people. I made few friends there and was enjoying life with what I had, and hoping to switch job whenever possible. Fast forward to Oct 2018 I got a call from Qualcomm for an engineer role in Hyderabad. Since I am from ECE and knew from college days Qualcomm is google for ECE engineers. I didn't hope to clear even the first round, frankly speaking I still couldn't forget the college scene so couldn't hoped that I can ended up in such a good companies. I came to Hyderabad and went through the interview, the interviewers were quite good there(they are my colleagues now ;) ) at the end of the day after 4 rounds of technical interview I got a feedback that I can leave for the day as I had flight to Chennai around 8:00 PM. I thought it's a complete rejection as few of the interviewer don't say directly that you are rejected. I was sad it's not because I couldn't crack the job but because I didn't thought to clear a single round and manage till 4th round and ultimately got rejected.

Then the next week I was continuing with the same normal routine in office and suddenly I got a call from Qualcomm HR that the feedback is quite good for me and they want to take one more round of technical interview and the interview would be that week itself and would be skype/telephonic. I went through the interview and this time I couldn't guess how the interview went for me, I would say kind of 50:50 it was as there were few deep java concepts which I couldn't properly explain other than that I was able to handle the interview and gave the answers aptly, still not sure if would get selected or not. After one week or so I got a call from the HR that I was selected and they sent me the offer letter. Most surprising thing you know what, in college I got rejected for a 6–7 LPA CTC numerous times and here I couldn't believe the salary package they offered for 1.5 years experience guy was 18–23LPA(can't disclose the exact CTC due to disclosure tnc) and the very next moment my last 1.5 years of professional journey and last 1 year of college placement hustle was flashing into my mind and I was literally crying that how many bad days I had went through to get something good for me but was happy that my hardwork paid off at last. I learnt from it that God always have a better plan and you just have to keep patience and faith on yourself and your abilities and be truthful to yourself. Now I am working in Qualcomm from last 1.8 years and I am happy with the work.

Now coming to the ques:

1. Try to always learn something which generally companies ask like DS and algo, Design pattern (generally good product based companies focus in this) , any one of the programming language java, Python etc. (Your knowledge is something and cracking the interview needs something else of you)
2. Be strong with your thought process and always see where you want to go(may be kind of technology)
3. Practice good amount of competitive coding questions to crack the coding rounds.
4. Before going for interview for a particular company research about the kind of ques they ask(will be easily available in internet)

All the best 🙂

New points added:

5. Make a good connection over linkedin irrespective of you know someone or not just make the relevant connection. Many of the recuritors are out there and you just need to see your LinkedIn feed, you will get good amount of opportunities there (this is really really helpful, for me now I am getting calls from the best companies in hardware and software sector in LinkedIn but I am not looking for a change now).

 

-Swarn Singh,Software Engineer at Qualcomm (2019–present)

Most of Us Do This, Right?

When the tube is brand new, we don’t even look at it when squeezing out the paste. We use it lavishly as we indolently think or dream about some random things.

Later, when it is going to be empty, we suddenly become careful. We focus on it while squeezing, put in all the energy and value every blob.

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The sad thing is that this very thing happens in life (and with life) as well.

At the beginning, when we have something in free-flow amount—love, money, eyesight, wealth, water, time, energy—we take it for granted and never give the value it deserves. Towards the end, just when we are about to lose it, we realise its true value and feel like fighting the world to not let it go.

This is one of hardest lessons in life that life teaches us the hard way.

So, let’s all appreciate ‘what we have’, before it turns into ‘what we had’.

 

  

-Srinath Nalluri

Let’s Start With a Picture

can you guess?

who is she?

why I am posting her picture here?

let me tell you some background details of this picture girl:

Roshani Bhadoriya is a resident of Anjal, a small village in Vind district of Madhya Pradesh. Her father is a farmer. she is sincere and wanted to study but there is a problem. There is no high school in her village, she didn’t lose hope, admitted to a high school, 12KM far away with her home. but again, how to go reach there as there is no bus facility by which she can go for the study. she decided not to give up. She bought a bicycle and started her study. she uses to padel her cycle 24 KM every day. so that she can go to school and study well.

yesterday, 10th results announced, and guess what?.

She has secured 98.75 percent marks and 8th rank in the merit list of the Madhya Pradesh Board of Secondary Education’s Class 10 exams.

Roshani said her aim is to clear the civil service exams and become an IAS officer. I wish for her success.

She is an inspiration to the entire village, even MP.

Salute to her dedication and commitment.

If this doesn't inspire you. no one will.

Image source: Google

Thank you.

 

-Avinash Kumar Mehta, IIT Bombay (PhD), IIT Kharagpur (M. Tech.), AIR 60(GATE'17)

 

I Want To Be Their Hero!

 

After my father passed away, I came to Delhi with maa and my brothers. Bhaiya used to work in a nearby factory and made enough to take care of us and pay my school fees. ⁣

 
But before the lockdown, he went to Jaipur for some work and I noticed that Maa used to be tense all the time. She wouldn't tell me anything but I understood that we had a money problem. Ghar ka ration khatam ho raha tha; Maa would sometimes skip her dinner. My younger brother was also sick.⁣

 
I wanted to do something to help and since my school was closed, I had plenty of time. One day when I saw a vegetable vendor in my area, I got the idea of selling vegetables in a pull ca

rt! Maa was hesitant at first, but when I promised her I’d be safe, she helped me hire a cart! ⁣

Every morning, at 4am, I go to Khalsa mandi and fill my cart with fresh stock. The market is usually very crowded– so, social distancing becomes difficult. I somehow manage to juggle through the crowd and head to the nearby households. Sometimes people say, ‘Beta, itne chote ho– aap kaam kyu karte ho?’

 

     

         But I’m always smiling because I’m helping Maa! My first day earning was Rs. 1000– I was very happy! I gave all the money to Maa and she used it to buy ration for us. ⁣

 
I remember, at first, I was very hesitant to talk to customers. Mujhe bahut darr lagta tha, but they were all so nice to me that I opened up to them. We ask each other about our family and a few of them even give me gifts!⁣

 
So this is what I’m doing now, but someday, I’ll join the army, serve my country and make everybody proud of me! Especially my family– I want to be their hero!”

 

 

 

Realization

A few hours ago I was sitting with my mother-in-law, wife and two daughters. I was like, jeez, I'm surrounded by some damn intelligent females.

My mother-in-law has 5 degrees in subjects as varied as Mandarin and Economics, my wife graduated from Oxford, my eldest daughter is perhaps the youngest person ever to have attained 5 A*s in her IGCSEs (16+ exams), when she was 12, and my youngest daughter is likely the youngest girl ever to have achieved an A* in Maths IGCSE, which she did when she was 8.

I then thought if you add the women in my birth family - my mother, who attained a scholarship to each of the several high schools she attended, and my sister, also an Oxford grad, I have been dealing with intelligent women all my life!

It hit me that none of them are as obsessed as most women I know about how they look, even though one was a part-time model. They like to look nice, but it's a minor aspect of their lives.

We live in a world where the media, and men in general, strongly encourage women to value their physical appearance more than anything else.

But these women value their minds most. That's a good thing, and it has been key to their achievements.

   -Asim Qureshi

Stop Creating False Beliefs in Your Mind

Types of People Who Will NOT Succeed in Life

There's a senior of my school whom I know personally, let his name be Amit.

His father owned a very small shop at the outskirts of my city and his mother was a homemaker, so the whole family relied on his father as he was the only source of income.He came from an extremely middle class family.

But when the CBSE 10th results were out, the whole school was stunned by his performance which was quite expected. He topped the whole district with a whopping 97%.

Everyone expected him to visit Kota as he had the potential to clear IIT(no jee adv was there that time). But due to his financial condition he stayed in our small city and yet again amazed us with his ecstatic performance in class 12 as he scored 95% with 100 in chemistry.

Through BCECE he got himself in Muzaffarpur Institute of Technology, for those who don't know, it's a tier-3 govt college of Bihar whose condition is pathetic.

A boy who was capable of clearing IIT ended up in a tier-3 college which was devastating for him, people advised him not to do so but money created the boundaries. Still he decided to pursue his interest and prepare for CAT.

He toiled hard and his hard work paid off, he got a call from IIM Indore and even got a govt job in E.Railway which was no less than a dream for him.

But life has it's own way of pulling out the rug from right under you feet when you least expect it.

His father died in an accident. The world almost stopped for him. Yet again, money created the boundaries between him and his dream Institute as the only earning member of the family is no more. He had no options left but to join as an engineer in Railways to support his family.

He dumped the idea of studying in IIM and went ahead to join as a govt engineer.

Years passed, he got married and was blessed with a baby girl.

Wait, the story is not over yet.

This time, he nailed it again. He cleared the toughest UPSC engineering service examination and this time even money didn't have the power to stop him.

Now, he's working as a class A officer and leads a peaceful life.

Now coming to the question, Which kind of people never succeed in life?

• People who are stuck in their past- This man had a gloomy past but it didn't stop him from holding on to his dream of becoming successful one day.
• People who play blame games- Never in my life have I seen this man blaming money or his luck for his circumstances, instead he sourced all the confidence from it and gave a kick start to his career.
• People who play safe- Had he not taken the risk, he would have been stuck with his old job.
• People who thinks it's too late- When he cleared this examination, he was married and had a 1 year old daughter. Still he remained focused on his aim and even fulfilled his responsibilities as a father.
• People who believes it's the end- If he had thought even once that leaving IIM for a low-paying job is the end, he would never be able to achieve the social status which he has today.He proved that Dead Ends don't exist!!!  
     
  -Akansha Kataria
  
  

Biggest Mistake I’ve Watched Someone Making in Their Personal Life

A friend of mine was defrauded of his savings of 70,000 dollars by a girl he liked.

My friend has never gone to college. But he is very hard working. He did the most the basic work at a factory for ten hours a day and with only two days of vacation per month.

My friend told me that he was in a relationship and that he met the girl at the factory.

Well, I didn’t doubt that girl at first. Yet, I felt that this girl was not taking their relationship seriously when I had dinner with them. I warned my friend and he was just pissed off because of my word.

This girl is from another province and we barely know her. She lied to my friend to marry him. She said that he needs to pay the girl’s parents 70,000 US dollars. Basically, the man needs to pay the women’s parents if a man and a women is getting a married. It is a kind of custom in China.

When I knew about this thing, I felt very unsettled. I advised him to be extremely cautious as his money was hard earned and that it doesn't come easily working at a factory.

He didn’t listen to me. He was even very happy about this “fake” marriage. I can’t believe that he is so stupid.

After he gave the money to the girl, she ran away in the middle of the night. THIS IS SUCH A BITCHY THING TO DO.

When he lost all his saving and the girl too, he felt like he had lost his soul.
He had no desire to work after that and he resigned. As a result, he had no place to live without a paycheck either.

I suggested for him to live in my house for a period of time. But he refused.

So he lived on the street and slept on a stone bench in the park at nights. He would stuff his mobile phone, a bank card ID, and a wallet with no money inside his pants and tighten his belt so that things would not get stolen when he fell asleep.

I helped him to ask police for help. But the girl was missing. And he is just so stubborn, he stopped contacting me gradually. I was so worried about him. Not much I could do for him.

He used to be easily influenced by online comments. He believed that women were only into spending money. He also believed that women only looked at money as a man’s worth.

Naturally, when he met this girl he liked, he kept spending money. Due time, he was finally cheated by her completely from his 70,000 US dollars in savings, his hope, and his life.

I just wanna warn you guys to not get influenced by the cyber languages and not to give up hope for life especially because of a bad relationship/s we ever had.

It is normal to feel like the sky is falling down and be upset at yourself like my friend.

Instead, be smarter and get control over your life.

- Samuel Whyte,Studied Psychology at University of Southampton (Graduated 2012)

Best Advice That I Gave to a 16 Year Old

An illiterate guy I knew desperately asked me to teach mathematics to his 16-year-old son who couldn’t multiply two one-digit numbers and was months away from failing his 16+ exams - he was at a below-average state school and was doing pretty badly there.

I agreed to his father's request, but I didn’t teach the kid any mathematics. Every week I just spent 15 minutes telling him and then reminding him that unless he sorted his life out he’d be cooking burgers for the rest of his life.

I explained in detail what that actually meant. Apart from hating his job he’d be driving home in a 20-year-old Datsun to his tiny house, he wouldn’t be able to give his kids things that he’d want to give them, etc…

And it would, in all probability, be too late to do anything about it, in part because he’d be mentally defeated.

I did tell him there’s nothing wrong living an honest life like that. In fact, it’d be admirable if he could contently do so. But he’s actively making a choice that will, in all probability, lead him there.

Just over five years later he graduated from King's College London, one of the top 25 universities in the world, in Computer Science.

 

-Asim Qureshi,MA in Physics, University of Oxford

Innovation and Creativity

How many of us think of poor people in India? I am sure most of us do.

Vikram Dinubhai Panchal of NID created this masterpiece and priced it at a minuscule cost of Rs. 300. It is called "load carrier for labor".

Load carrier for labor project is the innovation to improve the working condition of laborers and workers at many places globally like the construction sites, factories, ports, railway stations, etc. The objective is to prevent various occupational hazards and demonstrating Product design and ergonomic consideration in the welfare of human life.

Thank you for reading.

Kunal Sakhare, IOCL Officer

M.M.S. from Marketing, Jamnalal Bajaj Institute of Management Studies

Credit @ Shishir Gupta