Biggest Mistake I’ve Watched Someone Making in Their Personal Life

A friend of mine was defrauded of his savings of 70,000 dollars by a girl he liked.

My friend has never gone to college. But he is very hard working. He did the most the basic work at a factory for ten hours a day and with only two days of vacation per month.

My friend told me that he was in a relationship and that he met the girl at the factory.

Well, I didn’t doubt that girl at first. Yet, I felt that this girl was not taking their relationship seriously when I had dinner with them. I warned my friend and he was just pissed off because of my word.

This girl is from another province and we barely know her. She lied to my friend to marry him. She said that he needs to pay the girl’s parents 70,000 US dollars. Basically, the man needs to pay the women’s parents if a man and a women is getting a married. It is a kind of custom in China.

When I knew about this thing, I felt very unsettled. I advised him to be extremely cautious as his money was hard earned and that it doesn't come easily working at a factory.

He didn’t listen to me. He was even very happy about this “fake” marriage. I can’t believe that he is so stupid.

After he gave the money to the girl, she ran away in the middle of the night. THIS IS SUCH A BITCHY THING TO DO.

When he lost all his saving and the girl too, he felt like he had lost his soul.
He had no desire to work after that and he resigned. As a result, he had no place to live without a paycheck either.

I suggested for him to live in my house for a period of time. But he refused.

So he lived on the street and slept on a stone bench in the park at nights. He would stuff his mobile phone, a bank card ID, and a wallet with no money inside his pants and tighten his belt so that things would not get stolen when he fell asleep.

I helped him to ask police for help. But the girl was missing. And he is just so stubborn, he stopped contacting me gradually. I was so worried about him. Not much I could do for him.

He used to be easily influenced by online comments. He believed that women were only into spending money. He also believed that women only looked at money as a man’s worth.

Naturally, when he met this girl he liked, he kept spending money. Due time, he was finally cheated by her completely from his 70,000 US dollars in savings, his hope, and his life.

I just wanna warn you guys to not get influenced by the cyber languages and not to give up hope for life especially because of a bad relationship/s we ever had.

It is normal to feel like the sky is falling down and be upset at yourself like my friend.

Instead, be smarter and get control over your life.

- Samuel Whyte,Studied Psychology at University of Southampton (Graduated 2012)