Getting Stressed? Do this..............

My Teacher used to say we get stressed mostly due to 4 types of problems.

When we understand these problems and their root causes and solutions most of our worries and stress will go away

1. Some problems are like too small, but we over emphasize . But since it has recently happened, we get swayed away. For example a distant relative taunted you something or a friend said you something. You got hurt, you overthink, you spend your hours, days on this. Now look at your life since childhood. So many people came in your life and left. Only few stick with you. Only few. Majority are gone. You used to take stress for them, you used to overthink which has no value kind. It's like when you observe the world closely you understand we get worried mainly on trivial stuff which just comes and goes. Get above it. When I was drawn into spirituality I realized it much better. Most of the things in our lives are not worth taking stress.
2. Solutions of few problems are in your hand. Give your maximum on those. like you have some exam or you want to achieve a goal in career, then again stress won't help. Work on the skills to achieve the goal. Work on what is required for the goal.
3. Those things which are not in your hand accept the way they are and do not try to change much. For example we may not like something our parents, siblings or partner and we try to change them. It's not so easy. Changing a person when he attains 20+ age is very difficult. Accept them the way they are. Another example you can not do something on China-India relations now or you can not change the nepotism Bollywood. So instead of spending time, energy on debates and news related it spend time on enhancing your skills, ensure that you do not promote nepotism in your own life whatever circle you have.
4. Often our future too worries us. Thought about future. Remember you may be the richest man or the poorest no one knows what will happen next. Covid has at least made us realize this. All of us have so much plan in 2020, but who knew this way it will turn out to be. Live in the present. Whatever you have accept it.

-Abinash Mishra,IAS | IIT Kharagpur