I made many mistakes in my 20’s.

Ultimately, it all worked out for the best and today I have a life that I never thought was possible.

But the results I have today could have happened a lot sooner if I’d avoided the following things.

Heed my warning and save yourself a lot of pain and heartache.

Enjoy…

 

 

1. Low Status Friends

When I use the term low status friends, I’m not referring to their current financial status or their social status.

I’m referring to their personal status.

Low status friends are friends who lack ambition, drive, and a desire to improve.

They are negative individuals who play the victim card and blame others for their results.

Avoid these people like the plague.

If you want to succeed in your 20’s and beyond then remember one thing…

If you show me your friends… I will show you your future.

Who you hang out with becomes your destiny.

So be careful who you allow into your inner circle and always seek to spend time around winners.

2. Codependent Relationships

Nothing will destroy you faster than a codependent relationship.

Whether you are the dependent (the person who uses relationships to find their self worth) or the enabler (the person who stays with a dependent out of fear), you will sabotage your life and ruin your results.

Period.

Relationships can be the jet fuel that propels you towards the life of your dreams or the anchor that keeps you stuck in the harbor.

In a healthy relationship there are two independent people who come together, bringing their unique skills and attributes to create a better life than either person could have on their own.

If you are in a codependent relationship, you need to sit down and asses things.

If you can save the relationship by establishing boundaries and getting quality alone time then do it.

If not, then move on with your life and do yourself a favor. End of story.

3. Hard Drugs & Alcoholism

I’m not one to judge and I dabbled with more than my fair share of substances in my early 20’s.

But there is nothing that will ruin your life faster than hard drugs and alcoholism.

I’m not referring to a night cap or an evening joint.

I’m talking about substances like heroin, cocaine, meth, and the like.

Avoid these like the plague.

They will turn you into a shell of who you used to be and leave your life in the gutter without a dime to your name.

Just don’t freaking do it!

4. Your Comfort Zone

If you want to live a great life, then you must avoid your comfort zone like a crazy ex with a butcher knife.

No one ever achieved anything great by residing in their comfort zone.

We don’t write stories about great men and women because they did what was easy.

Society rewards and recognizes those who do the hard things that are necessary to live a good life.

Look…

Everyone reading this has the potential to be successful beyond their wildest dreams.

But to do so, you must embrace the fact that successful people do hard things.

They step out of their comfort zone and into the unknown.

They boldly move forward and chart their own path.

Get the hell out of your comfort zone in your 20’s and get into life.

5. “Normal”

If there’s one thing that must be avoided more than anything else on this list it’s normal.

Normal is 5-figures in debt, living pay check to paycheck, getting a divorce in your 30’s, working a job you hate, and rocking a “Dad Bod”.

F*ck normal.

Normal is the antithesis of greatness and if you want to be successful in your 20’s, you will avoid it at all costs.

Don’t do what other people do.

Don’t spend your time the way that the masses do.

Don’t buy the same crap, work the same jobs, or live the same lives.

As the old saying goes, “Do what others won’t so that you can do what others can’t”

Screw normal.

Be exceptional.

Hope this helps.

Stay Grounded, 

Andrew

Money is nothing......

We have this problem, seeing wealth as “greed” in America, but this is what it truly means to have money here:

1. Reduced Life Stressors. No worries about groceries, rent payments, utility costs, transportation costs. You can turn the heat up and be warm in your home and not have to think about it. Taking these expenses away would reduce stress for a lot of families and people
2. You can get Exactly the Medical Care You Need. The best medical care, specialists who are *not* in your network, surgeries, physical rehab, cancer care without going broke, prescriptions that you need. A lot of people delay care, skip rehab or don’t fill meds bc they can’t afford it - it impacts their health & happiness. Medical bills are the #1 cause of bankruptcy in the United States - money could help a lot of people.
3. Family Cared For. Are your aging parents needing anything? You have the power to help them. College education is crazy expensive - now your kids won’t carry debt.
4. Ability to Take Breaks. Want to go to the beach in the middle of Winter? You can. Want to spend time with family living in another state? You can. It’s a new world when you can actually take a month and just….relax. That *definitely* improves your quality of life over working two jobs and barely making ends meet.
5. Acquiring Quality Items. I’m not talking about a luxury watch…but just the ability to buy a warm wool winter sweater, or solid jacket. They cost money! Look at the jackets they sell at Walmart and compare them to Patagonia. It’s not just about “brand,” but how warm do they keep you? How comfortable are you outside? Little things like this make all the difference to improve your comfort.

To say that money *doesn’t* make life easier or improve your life would be dishonest.

Wealth has the potential to improve *everyone’s* life.

It shouldn’t be that way, but it is still that way in America…and as someone who has been on both sides of wealth, I’ll tell you that it makes all the difference in the world.

-Julie Gurner

Judging Others....

Judging others - how they act, what they say, what they wear - is a universal habit designed to feed our ego.

We make others small to feel big.

Look. Look how much better I am. Look how much better I do.

Judging is an unimaginative way to make ourselves feel like we belong. Those people, we say. They are not like us.

It underlines what makes us separate, instead of reminding us we are the same.

The act of judging comes from insecurity and is a symptom of unhappiness. If you are truly happy you don't need to cut others down to size or put down the choices others have made.

Speaking ill of others, even as a joke, as a way to pass time, shows people how you will one day come to speak of them and makes them wonder if you can be trusted.

The habit of judging is worth breaking for all these reasons but also because it continuously trains your brain to be critical. It narrows your vision.

You make it increasingly difficult for yourself to see the good in others, and consequently, the good in you.

  -Dushka Zapata

Poverty is because of......

Poverty is a result of multiple factors including political environment, availability of opportunities, health factors and a lack of education.

Apart from these a key factor is the lack of a proper guide to motivate and show the right direction. They grow up in a vicious circle that sucks them back.

Over decades I have been observing the economic conditions of our maids. We lived in over 25 homes and have had 40 odd maids overall in my life. In practically all cases they educated their children and many of them are doing well in their life.

What makes the maids do so well in climbing the prosperity ladder, compared to their peers in the slum? A key thing is they are looking at the right examples. They are observing what you are studying, what career options you are choosing, what financial habits you are having and overall have a much better idea at what makes someone succeed. Many of these maids use these practices at home and climb out of poverty faster than other poor people.

If poor people get the right role models, guides, examples and plan, many could climb out of poverty.

-Balaji Vishwanathan

My father is 104. My mother is 100.

Both told me the same thing:

“Stay away from doctors.”

To which they added, “do everything in moderation.”

For example, my father ate steak and eggs for breakfast for years - but in small quantities. The most important part of diet is how much one eats. Junk food won’t hurt you in small quantities. For example, one slice of pizza and a small glass of beer is OK. Eating a large pizza while drinking a 6-pack - not so good.

But what they say about fruits and vegetables - so very true. Try eating nothing but fruits and veggies for a few days, and see if you don’t feel better than you ever have.

Also, watch your weight (ever seen an obese 100-year-old?)

And - so important - take a stroll everyday. You don’t need to run, just a leisurely stroll around the neighborhood will do you more good than a gym membership.

Full disclosure - I used to live on Big Macs, Whoppers, pizza, fries and fried chicken. Old age has taught me that, maybe, this isn’t a good idea.

-Chet Blakistone

RBI Grade B is Overrated

RBI grade B is actually most underrated exam.

1. Grade B in RBI is also called as Manager. Where else you can join at the age of 21 as Manager.
2. Salary in RBI is more than average package of top MBA colleges in India.
3. RBI is having offices only in big cities and you get decent accommodation at the place of posting.
4. RBI is a big brand in itself. No corporate job could provide you respect in society which RBI can.
5. RBI is a knowledge institution. Here, you would work with people from IIT/IIM and other prestigious institutions.
6. RBI is having a scheme of golden jubilee scholarship scheme, under which you can pursue higher education from top foreign university.
7. At the end of the day, most important parameter any human being look in job is peace of mind. RBI provide you a perfect work-life balance and mental peace.

Considering all these, I think, RBI Grade B is highly underrated.

-Rohit Bharuka

Money is Everything.....

Is it possible to purchase the following with money?

• Knowledge
• Wisdom
• Respect
• Honour
• Love
• Friendship
• Life
• Time
• Peace
• Sleep

The answer is simple.

Money can hardly buy anything except what is physical, like food, water, house or cloths.

If you are too poor, you perhaps can’t think of anything else because money is needed to buy these things for the sustainable body.

For a hungry man, a loaf of bread may look like God.

However, if a person has been provided with basic necessities, he would find money useless in achieving higher things of life.

A person who is rich passed through the journey of life and understood this valuable lesson of life, while a poor man is still unable to think of anything more than his survival.

Hence, their perspectives differ in respect of money.

Steve Jobs once said, “My favourite things in life don't cost any money. It's really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time”.

He knew this well because all his wealth could not buy him more time, which he wanted too badly during his last days.

-Awdhesh Singh

Mistakes that Ruin Peoples Lives......

1. They do not dream big enough. Most goals are tiny goals that do not even excite the one planning the goal! The whole world is telling us we need to have “realistic” goals without even knowing what we are capable of and we just follow that advice blindly, limiting ourselves before we even start.

Your dreams should excite you! They should be things that excite you so much you tingle with excitement every time you think about it. It doesn’t matter at all if it is achievable or not, the only thing that matters is that it is so big you cannot help but to work towards it.

Small goals only do 2 things:

1. They make you depressed after you achieve it because you suddenly do not have anything to work towards.
2. They limit you into what you believe you can do.

Have a goal so big others will shake their heads, tell you it is unrealistic and will think you have a god-complex for only thinking about it. Let them be the ones that are stuck in the “realistic” world they imagine, whilst you actually test those limits with all you’ve got.

2. They expect it to go faster and give up if it doesn’t. No one expects it to take a long time. In today’s world of fast internet, instant information and immediate rewards we all want things to go FAST!

This is why so many people quit! It only needs to take 1 week longer than we expect it to and we will want to quit, saying it isn’t worth it anymore. Look at any New Year’s Resolution and you will see that this is true. Losing 10lbs is easy at first, but after a month of exercising and realizing you still have only lost 2lbs it isn’t worth it anymore.

Everything that is worth it will take its time, but it will also not matter how long it takes because it is worth it!

3. They do not take responsibility for their lives. It is unbelievably easy to make excuses and to blame others. If it isn’t your fault then you couldn’t change it, meaning that you are but a victim of the world around you and you will not have to put in any work.

The truth is: Living an awesome life is hard! If it were to just fall in your lap one day no one would do anything and everyone would have it.

A lack of responsibility causes you to become depressed with every single negative event. Nothing is in your control, meaning every time something bad happens you are helpless and will just sit in the corner and cry.

Take responsibility for the way you feel, where you are in life and where you want to end up. It is better to believe everything is in your power than to believe nothing is. But, as with most things, a balance is still best!

4. They do not believe in their own power. People that end up on the street believe that, even if it is their responsibility, they couldn’t change it. “I am not strong enough/smart enough/I am too lazy/procrastinate too much/That is just the way I am.”

All of these limiting thoughts are nothing more than thoughts that hold no truth but will ruin your life faster than anything else. Learned helplessness is the biggest reason for depression, and much more common than even 20 years ago.

Believe that you can do it, even if you have no idea how. Believe you will figure it out and do something about it and you will gain control back of your life.

5. They undercommit. Most people have a very skewed idea on the work/reward ratio of the world. In fact, most people believe it takes half the amount of work it actually will take or worse. It’s not surprising that those people are the ones that end up depressed because nothing they do works out.

Real commitment starts when you say that you will do it no matter how long it will take. Time should not even be a factor in the things you want to do. If you can change your attitude into a “whatever it takes” attitude, you will never run into the issue of being depressed for not getting what you want, because you will always get it!

6. They stay with the wrong group. Friends come and go, yet we all want to hold on so tightly to our current group that we do not even begin to realize how negative most of them are. But anything is better than being alone, right?

Even if that were to be true, that does not excuse you staying with the same negative people that only drag you down! In the end you will model all the people around you according to how much time you spend with them. That is why you are so much like your best friend and couples become more similar as time goes on.

You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, and if you want to improve, grow, and get your life to equal that of your dreams, then you need to find the people that will turn you into the person deservant of that life!

7. They believe change is specific only to the area they wish to change. Every change will change everything. You cannot expect to get a higher paying job when you still play video games for 8 hours a day and still order pizza every other day.

Right now, you have exactly what you deserve in life. You get exactly what you put into it. If you want to get a better life, then you have to change. Stop trying to find the specific reasons to change and focus instead on becoming the person that will naturally have the life you want.

It is not about getting the job, money or partner, but instead about becoming the person deservant of that job, that kind of money and such an amazing partner!

-Lukas Schwekendiek

Perks of RBI Grade B Officer

You get 2bhk in heart of the city to live. Never you need to worry about your accommodation till retirement.

 If you have a car on your name, you will get 150 ltr worth petrol allowance on mere declaration (i.e. 11k per month)

Monthly allowances: Maid allowance (3k), mobile allowance (1.5k), 2k sodexo coupons

Annual allowances: 4.5k medical on declaration, 4k book grant on declaration 

Biannual allowances: 7k briefcase allowance, 7k spectacles allowances (if your spouse has spects too, then you can claim that too)

LTC/LFC tour allowance - 1lac per two years per person of the family (dependent members). Foreign tours are allowed

 Generally your medical expenses will get reimbursed.

When on official tour, you always travel by air, live in quality hotel (such as Marine Plaza in Mumbai) and you get TA, DA too.

If you have a kid, you will get 3k per month for kid for his education.

5 Days week office.Saturday and Sunday Off.

No political pressure.

Generally you dont have to deal with common people like in other Banks.

House and Car Loan at lower interest. 

and at last dont forget the salary.

In Rich Dad, Poor Dad, Robert Kiyosaki mentions, “According to psychiatrists, the fear of public speaking is caused by the fear of ostracism. A fear of standing out, the fear of criticism, the fear of ridicule and being an outcast.”

Aristotle once said, “to avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” Existing is not living.

-Anna Sharudenko

Forced Retirements, Lateral Entries, 360-Degree Performance Reviews & Unsurmountable Pressure in Civil Services

“Beware of false knowledge” said George Bernard Shaw. “It is more dangerous than ignorance”.

You seem to be not only ignorant, but also have false knowledge about the present condition of civil services.

If you are talking about compulsory retirement of 27 IRS officers under 56(J), please know that these officers were facing serious corruption charges and they were a liability on the government and the people of India. Their numbers are quite insignificant as compared to total number of people who must be sacked for their non-performance.

Government is still tolerating a large number of incompetent and corrupt officers even today.

Lateral entries are for secretariat jobs like Joint Secretaries, Director, for which most civil servants don’t even apply as these posts are only for policy making with hardly any real power like DM, SP or Commissioner.

360 degree performance review is a sham and more than 95% civil servants are getting promoted even today without doing anything worthwhile based on seniority and performance report(which is rarely below the benchmark).

As far as pressure is concerned, it is still least lowest in civil services, unless you choose the high pressure jobs yourself and use these jobs for illegal personal benefits.

It is better not to consider the exceptions as the rule and get paranoid about them.

Learn to know the truth because only truth can make you free.

-Awdhesh Singh