Manipulative Person

Once upon a time, when I and my friend were looking for an additional housemate for one unoccupied room, one guy came to check the house.

He wanted to do certain things in the house which weren't okay with us. These were some of his lines during the conversation.

• ‘It is difficult for you guys to keep the room unoccupied for longer time.’
• ‘You might have to pay rent for additional room if you don’t find the tenant on time.’
• ‘This is not vacation period. So finding tenant should be a headache right. Hope it ends soon for you.’
• ‘You should be already busy with work. This housemate hunting should be an added trouble for you.’

Was he our friend?

No.

Did we know him before?

No.

Then why the hell he was showing concern for us?

One of the most common and first step manipulative people do is to tell you the benefits you would be getting.

They act concern and care towards you.

They illusionise you with all the advantages so that you won’t think about the drawbacks.

From insurance agents to salesmen to real estate agents to backstabbers, this is a very very basic trick they use.

Look out for it.

 

-Srinath Nalluri

 

I’ve Always Been Naturally Smart

 

I’ve always been naturally smart.

Well, I don’t actually believe anyone is naturally good at anything. But growing up, I had a mom who read to me every night. By the time I was four years old, I could read very fluently and I devoured books. My mom also made me practice math facts in the car.

 

So, when it came to school, I got A’s without ever studying. I excelled in reading, math, and science just by paying attention in class and doing my homework.

I graduated with a 4.2. I even got a 31 on my ACT without studying a bit.

Upon graduating, I applied to engineering school at OSU.

Classes began and I paid attention in class and did my homework like I always had. Then, I failed my entire first round of tests.

For the first time in my life, I realized I had to study. My natural smarts were not going to be enough. And I realized, I didn’t know how to study.

It was weird, asking others how they studied for tests. They went through and resolved homework problems. I couldn’t believe they did homework twice. They did study guides. They made flashcards.

And I, for the first time, had to learn both the discipline, techniques, and focus it required to study for tests. Engineering is the reason I learned how to study well.

 

Also, it’s well known in engineering that many professors are absolutely horrible teachers, but they bring so much money through research to the university that they never get fired. I had such bad professors with such hard tests, I had to teach myself subjects like Thermodynamics or Materials Science. It was then that I learned how to teach myself anything.

Teaching yourself is a skill, many people don’t learn anything because they believe they can’t learn without a teacher. It holds many people back.

 

Now, I’ve taught myself two languages. I’ve taught myself coding and web design. I’m learning to build an app.

I don’t believe I could have taught myself any of those things without studying engineering.

Engineering changed my life by teaching me how to study, how to gain discipline and work hard, and how to teach myself anything.

 

 -Charissa Enget,Mechanical and Energy Engineer

Meet This Man.........

Meet this man

 

He is Akshansh Gupta

 

 

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•  Akshansh Gupta, 32 completed his PhD from India’s prestigious Jawaharlal Nehru University, Delhi in 'Brain Computer Interface' in the department of Computer and System Sciences.    
  
• Akshansh Gupta has cerebral palsy, a neurological condition that severely limits his movements and speech capability. He cannot walk, operate his own wheelchair or even feed himself.
• He is 95% disabled.
• He had done his B.Tech, M.Tech and PhD in Computer Science
• His lower limbs are of no use, his slurred speech is difficult to decipher.
• He had travelled to Malaysia to present a paper on his chosen subject of computer science.
• Recently he founded a company and now actively working along with two fellow PhD scholars from JNU.
• The company called IRADA( Integrative Research Analysis and Development Academy), that aims to promote education and research for the school students as well as PhD scholars.
• But this fairy tale is not that much of easy.

When I saw my siblings go to school, I wanted to do likewise. But in my condition, which school would admit me?

 

In general in our country the attitude towards people with disabilities is quite negative.

 

The first thing people ask is, “ what will you gain by studying?”

 

“I feel that if you’re determined, you can achieve anything. But you have to take the first step, Until you do that, you cannot expect the world to support you”                                     -Akshansh Gupta Told BBC

 

• He has an extraordinarily mind and he always wanted to prove that disability was a myth. 
• He is the person who wears many hats of achievements. He is the person who as a single man's army, challenged the UGC for its anti-disabled policies and ultimately forced it to roll back the regressive measures
  

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Be busy in your task and mind your own business.

 

Don’t expect that you got appraisals from everyone for what you’re doing.

 

Just remember that you’re living your life in your own timeline. Someone is early, someone is late it’s not a very big deal. Never compare your life with others.

  

Learn from the experiences & mistakes of other.You dont have to re-invent the wheel.

 

Worrying about something after all is NOT the Solution. So, it’s a waste of time.

  

The only way to overcome problems is to work hard & smart and develop a  Never Give Up Attitude.

   

           So, if he can do this, I think anyone can do anything. And there is no need to worry about your problems rather find ways  about how to overcome and solve those problems. Your problems are too small if you try to look with a naked eye and a positive mindset and such  people are doing great in their life.

 

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1. 95% disabled, JNU scholar battles huge odds to get PhD | India News - Times of India
2. Akshansh's PhD: India man who didn't let cerebral palsy win
3. Almost 95% Disability Couldn’t Stop This Gritty UP Lad From Getting a PhD
4. World Disability Day: A salute to the scholar who fought cerebral palsy to complete his PhD

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Let Me Share My Own Method of improving Time Management, by Breaking....

Let me share my own method of improving time management, by breaking down the abstract concept of time management into 3 areas to tackle. This has proven extremely effective for me in the past.

In the world of management consulting, especially when it comes to consulting in the manufacturing sector, there is a concept we focus on quite a bit, called OEE.

OEE stands for “overall equipment effectiveness”, and helps to break down the problem of improving the effectiveness of a machine into simple and relatable terms.

There are 3 constituents of OEE: availability, utilization and productivity. Simply put, improving the effectiveness of a machine boils down to improving the amount of time the machine is available, improving the percentage of time the machine can be utilized when it is available, and the productivity of that machine when it is being utilized.

Let us apply the same concept to our own lives.

• Availability: The number of hours per day available to a human being to be utilitized are basically 24 hours minus the number of hours the person needs to sleep. This is because sleeping is an essential activity, without which the human brain cannot work. The number of hours one needs to sleep optimally is a debatable topic, but let us assume that 8 hours is the optimum figure. I believe one can function well with less sleep also, but most research says 8 hours is the optimum sleeping time, so let us go with 8 hours. Hence, the number of hours available to a person can be maximum 16 hours. If you are sleeping for more than 8 hours, you are simply wasting time. That is the first lever to improve your time management skills.
• Utilization: Now that you have 16 hours available in a day, how many hours do you actually utilize? For the sake of simplicity, let us assume that when you sit on your desk to work, or when you take out time to pursue some hobby, you are utilizing your time. The only time you are not utilizing is the time spent without doing anything. The idle time spent lying around. Reduce or eliminate your idle time. Ensure you always have something to do in your time, be it work, hobbies or meeting friends. That is the second lever to improve your time management skills.
• Productivity: Now that you are utilizing your time doing an activity, how productive are you actually? If you spend 3 hours sitting at your desk working, do you actually get the output worth 3 hours or do you get an output worth only 2 hours? In my mind, this is the trickiest lever to resolve. How do you ensure that you are being productive? There are two aspects to productivity.
• Being able to concentrate well - I strongly believe it all boils down to your mental space. If your mental space is clear and less cluttered, you will be more productive. If your mental space is filled with irrelevant thoughts, negativity, or a lot of emotion, you will be less productive. Get rid of negative thoughts, get rid of irrelevant emotions, and get rid of distractions. And you will find yourself improving your concentration.
• Planning your time well - Every activity has a different perceived value. You might have utilized your time fully and also concentrated well on the activity, but just choosing the wrong activity will reduce your productivity. Plan your day ahead so that you can cover all the activities that you want to pursue, be it work or hobbies. Plan ahead, and plan well.

The human brain is very complex, and we tend to get lost in the complexity. But if you simplify the human brain and think of it like a machine, you will find yourself much more capable of mastering your brain and thus your time.

-Rohan Jain,IITK, 2011-2015, IIMA 2015-17

Persistence

 

It was bad — really bad.

I was failing in school and I wanted to give up.

I don’t know if my father asked for my grandfather’s help, but one day while visiting my grandpa’s ranch he invited me for a horse ride.

He grabbed his horse and pulled me up to ride behind him.

“You’ve got to see this,” he said.

“What, Grandpa?” I asked while I held on as tight as I could behind him while the horse galloped.

A couple of minutes later we got there. He helped me get off the horse.

“Come see this drop of water that’s hitting this big stone.” he said pointing to the natural water source.

“What about it, Grandpa?” I asked.

“Look how tiny and delicate each drop is,” he indicated as drops accumulated in his hand. There’s a big lesson in each of these drops!”

I stared at him.

He continued, “These drops of water remind me of everything that I accomplished during my life. Everything that I ever achieved was because of focus and persistence. See that rock below, receiving each drop?”

“Yes?” I answered.

“It’s remarkable that such a tiny and delicate drop of water can beat down that tough stone. Over time, these tiny drops of water have worn and sculpted this tough rock.”

I nodded.

“Your dad told me you want to give up your efforts at school. Remember this, MOST days you will feel like this drop of water that has not much significant force.”

I held my hand out to touch the dripping water.

He continued, “Dripping water sculpts stones — NOT by force, but through focused, constant, relentless persistence. Whenever you feel like giving up, remember these water droplets, Hector!”

To answer your question, do you think persistence is important? Why or why not?

Persistence is everything in accomplishing anything in life. There are NO shortcuts. Whatever you want to accomplish in life, it demands targeted, focused, persistent daily actions!

 

 

- Hector Quintanilla

#BeBusinessSmart

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10 Lessons in Life : Either You Learn it by Yourself or by Observing Others

Changing your life for better is all about selecting a destination and taking one step at a time to get there. Improving your life doesn’t have to be about making a big gesture. Instead it’s about you constantly working on and how you take those small steps every day.

1. Be Grateful

There are people wishing for the life you are living. Be grateful for it instead of complaining for the things you don’t have. You just don’t need big things happening in your life to be grateful for. Habit of being grateful starts with you appreciating for every good things in your life and there is nothing too small for you to be thankful for. Not only be thankful for the positive and good things but be thankful for difficult or negative situations because it has helped you to grow.When you are grateful fears disappears and abundance appears.

2. Have a growth mindset

When it comes to learning there are typically two kinds of people, one with fixed mindset and one with growth mindset.

People with fixed mindset usually shy from the challenges because they fear the fear or they fear to get humiliated in front of others if they fail. This can be problematic because fear of making mistakes can lead towards avoiding new experiences, challenges which can help you grow.

Whereas people with growth mindset do not fear the fear. They are ready to take challenges and never afraid to fail. They learn from their mistakes and difficult situations which helps them to grow.

3. Get out of your comfort zone

Do something everyday that scares you. Most amazing realization and discoveries are made outside your comfort zone. It’s important to push the boundaries of your comfort zone. Think big and act big.

“As you move outside of your comfort zone, what was once the unknown and frightening becomes your new normal.” — Robin S. Sharma

4. Surround yourself with positive people

People have a huge impact on your life. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. They are people that will inspire you to be a better person, provide you with motivation to achieve your goals, empower you to make the changes you need to succeed and cheer on your success.

5. Build Skills

Learn something new. Nowadays people are known for their skills. Alvin Toffler said, "The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn." That's because, in an environment where new skills emerge as fast as others fade, success is less about what you already know and more about adapting your skills by growing and expanding your knowledge base.

6. Procrastinate your procrastination

Why do people procrastinate? Because they are afraid to take action, they are afraid to make changes in their life, they are afraid to get out of their comfort zone. Procrastination is just an excuse for not taking action towards your goal. Build habits, have self discipline, create plan and take action. Nothing works if YOU don’t work.

7. Improve confidence

Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. If someone seems to have incredible self-confidence, it’s because he or she has worked on building it for years. Visualization is the technique of seeing an image of yourself that you are proud of, in your own mind. Practice visualizing a fantastic version of yourself, achieving your goals. We tend to behave in accordance with our own self-image. The trick to making lasting change is to change how you view yourself.

“What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.” -- Napoleon Hill

8. Be persistent

Developing persistence is a master skill to success. Persistence is probably one of the most admirable characters a person can possess. Many has the capacity to set goals and plans toward success, yet only few succeeds, because only few stick to work on their goals and plans until it is accomplished. Be consistent, value yourself, value your goals.

9. Learn to say NO

Saying no doesn’t mean that you are being rude, selfish, or unkind. It’s just that you value yourself, your goals and your time. If the things are not worth the time doing, say no to that things.

10. You’ve already done it by looking for the ways to improve your life

Getting serious about making improvements is a great start, and taking ACTION is the next important step.Take ACTION.

Hope It Helps! Thanks For Reading.

Hi I’m Harsh, same old kid with the same old dream to achieve something BIG.

 

-Harsh Bhanushali

Being Average in a Developing Country

 

Let us have a glimpse of an average person in India.

1: Income

An average person in India earns around Rs 6000-8000 ($ 100-125) per month in which he has to survive with his family. In 2012, the Indian government stated 21.9% of its population is below its official poverty limit.The World Bank, in 2011 based on 2005's PPPs International Comparison Program, estimated 23.6% of Indian population, or about 276 million people, lived below $1.25 per day (Rs 25 per day) on purchasing power parity. You can very well imagine your condition to survive in the income of an average person.

2: Housing

An average person in India lives in village in mud houses without any electricity or at the most 4-6 hours of electricity in a day. He has no LPG connection and food is cooked on wood-fire. If he is privileged to migrate to city, he lives in slums in subhuman condition similar to what is shown in picture below.

3: Education

An average person in India can’t afford to send his children in any private school. He studies in a government or municipal schools, which are in a pathetic condition with hardly any teacher to pay any attention to the student. He may pass the school because he can’t be filed upto class VIII, but his knowledge base is so little that it is of hardly any value in the job market. You perhaps have only one teacher for the entire school who also is not very regular and sincere.

4: Health Care

An average person in India can’t afford treatment in any private hospital as he has no money to pay the fee to doctor or to buy the medicine. He has no option but to go to a government hospital and wait of hours in a queue to see the doctor to get treatment, if doctor/medicine is available in the hospital. Sometime, they can’t ever survive through the common ailments due to the paucity of resources.

5: Job

Average people in India do not have a permanent job pr even the lowest level job in an organised sector. The job of a peon or even a driver is a dream to them. Most of them are employed in menial jobs in organised sectors where they work in hot sun and cold winters 10-12 hours a day to earn their living with no guarantee that they would get employment on the next day.

Avoid Being Average

If people don’t want to be average in a developing country like India, it is because their life is truly pathetic being average.

You romanticise poverty when you are rich, but you would never like to suffer this life even in your dreams.

Get out of this mediocre life as soon as you can.

Source:

Poverty in India

Pictures: Google Images

-From Dr.Awdhesh Singh's Words 

Anger & Human Behaviour

 

Originally Answered: What are the most interesting facts about human behavior ?

• A person has the habit of banging his fist on the table hard when he is angry.
• But he doesn’t do that when there is flimsy glass table in front of him.
• A person has the habit of throwing whatever is there in his hand when he is angry.
• But he may not do that when there is a $1500 brand new phone in his hand.
• A person has the habit of kicking something in front of him when he is angry,
• But he may not do that when there is thorn bush in front of him.

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So if you notice the common-thing here,

When a person is angry— most of the times— he subconsciously knows how to show it without hurting himself.

The extension of this behaviour is,

You show anger only on people whom you think are not stronger than you and who don’t have the power to harm you back.

For example:

When a server is pouring you water and it spills on your shirt, you will shout at him. But, when your boss is passing you coffee and it spills on your shirt, you might not shout. You may even smile ‘It’s okay.’

You will think twice before you show anger on someone who is more powerful than you.

But with people whom you think are lower than you or whom you take for granted, you show it effortlessly. Because you are clearly aware, they can’t hit back at you or that they will come back to you irrespective of whatever you say during anger.

  

-Srinath Nalluri

‘Kuch Aur Saath Ho Na Ho, Yeh hamesha Saath Dega"

 My father passed away when I was 9. Then on, Maa always told me how important education is, ‘Kuch aur saath ho na ho, yeh hamesha saath dega.’ She was very progressive; she graduated in the 1940s.
 

 
After graduation, I pursued my Masters. It was atypical for a woman to study so much but I was sure. In my final year, I got married–I insisted on staying with Maa to complete my degree.

 
My husband was a manager at a firm; we were a middle class family. I wanted to help & thought, ‘Why shouldn’t I work?’ I began job hunting & was hired as a teacher. 

 
But a married woman going to work was unusual–neighbours would stare & relatives would taunt. Even my mom-in-law snubbed me. But my husband said, ‘I support you.’

 
I loved my job & worked even when I was pregnant with my kids; 2 daughters & a son. My work timings clashed with their school timings. So, my husband would cook breakfast & drop them to school. 

 
For us, every penny mattered–so after school, I’d walk to save the 50p rickshaw fee. I saved for my kids' education–‘That’s the only asset that’s gotten me so far,’ I’d say. When my son was preparing for his engineering exam, I begged our landlady for an extra room so he could study better.

 
When my daughter, Aarti was getting married, she was also in her final year & was to move to New York after. I told her, ‘Ghumna phirna, lekin waha jaa ke padhai poori karna!’ So, after her maternity break, Aarti completed her Masters. And she passed on the same wisdom to her daughter, Radhika. Today, Aarti is a school principal & Radhika, the CEO of a company!

After working for 36 years, I retired in 2000. I enjoy doing the little things like cooking & reading stories to my grandkids. At 80, I’m still involved with my school to improve the quality of education.
As women, the best heirloom we can give our daughters is to let them know they can be, do & achieve anything. Our girls today are the women of tomorrow–it’s our responsibility to raise them to know that they are enough.”

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Burning Desire

You can easily cultivate a burning desire to do the things that you don’t like doing. It’s quite simple really.

Just relate the outcome of something you don’t like doing to something that you truly desire.

During the JEE preparation, I sacrificed all parties and outings with friends and gave my everything to JEE studies. This was not because I had a burning desire to study. It was because I really desired the outcome of the JEE preparation - a good IIT, which would improve my career.

I did not find myself interested in computer science during my B.Tech, but I still ensured my grades never suffered. This was not because I had a burning desire to code, but because I could relate good grades in my mind as a pathway to good foreign internship opportunities to explore the world, and a good MBA college.

I don’t work hard as a consultant now because I have a burning desire to consult, but because I desire a successful career. I want to be good at what I do.

Whenever you pick up an activity which you don’t like doing, just think about why you picked up that activity in the first place. If there is absolutely no desirable outcome of that activity, then you are probably wasting your time doing that activity anyway.

But if there is an outcome that you desire, then you are not spending time doing an activity you don’t like, but you are spending time working towards an outcome you want. That thought should be enough to generate a burning desire in your mind.

Desire is, after all, just a trick of the mind and the heart.

 

-Rohan Jain,CSE IITK'15, IIMA Batch of 2015-17

Feeling Low

You wake up. You are in a grey prison cell.

You have been convicted of a terrible crime. You will either spend the rest of your life in this jail cell or suffer a more severe fate.

The bars to the room keep you contained for 23 hours a day. Your cell is 10 feet by 10 feet. There is little to do besides read a book.

A prison guard will walk by and look at you every hour for the rest of your life.

The other prisoners will make vulgar noises late into the night that keep you from sleeping. You will share a public toilet in full view of the other prisoners.

You’ll be subjected to full body inspections on a regular basis.

You will never hug any family members again. You will never be able to pursue your dreams. You will never hold your own child in your arms.

You will never eat good food again. You will never sit outside and watch the sun set or rise again in this life.

On more than one occasion you will be forced to fight other prisoners.

Every dark and terrible day will repeat itself as you spend every second of the rest of your life rotting in this cage.

Now pause.

Step away from this reality.

Look around the room you actually sit in.

Look at the colors. The doorways without bars. The door that isn’t locked. The privacy you enjoy. All those little boring things you’ve taken for granted.

Consider all the greater things: Your free will, your health, your family, and your freedom.

They are all yours.

And now — consider the dark reality just described.

And if that doesn’t work, consider darker realities.

Happiness is merely an exercise in appreciation for the things that we have.

 

-Sean Kernan