Being Generous with Mean people?

It is foolish to be generous with mean people.

I know a person who was a senior officer in State Government.

On the request of his wife, he gave a good amount of money to his brother-in-law.

However, after couple of years, his brother-in-law refused to return him the money claiming that he lost all the money in business.

Hence, when his younger/second brother-in-law demanded money from him for doing his business, he refused.

However, his wife prevailed over him and told him to give as much money to her younger brother as he has given to the elder one.

And he was forced to give the money to his younger brother-in-law knowing fully well that it would never be returned.

He was not alone to be duped by mean people who are found in plenty all around us.

If you are a good and generous person, you are likely to be exploited by mean and unscrupulous people, who take your kindness for granted and demand that you help them because you have helped others.

One of my relatives had to learn this lesson in very hard way.

He was in a Government service at senior position and he helped one of his relative to get a government job using his influence.

Very soon, almost all his relatives started camping in his house and demanded that he must arrange a government job for them too.

This adversely affected the family life of my relative as his children were compelled to vacate their rooms to accommodate their relatives and suffer a lot due to presence of so many mean people in his house demanding a job.

However, most of these mean people cursed him later (and even now) because he could not get a government job for them or arrange good postings for those who got the jobs.

Once you identify that a person is mean, you must maintain a good distance from him and refuse to help him in any way.

It is better to suffer little criticism early than to be cursed later for not fulfilling their expectations.

-Dr.Awdhesh Singh (ex IRS officer)