‘Kuch Aur Saath Ho Na Ho, Yeh hamesha Saath Dega"

 My father passed away when I was 9. Then on, Maa always told me how important education is, ‘Kuch aur saath ho na ho, yeh hamesha saath dega.’ She was very progressive; she graduated in the 1940s.
 

 
After graduation, I pursued my Masters. It was atypical for a woman to study so much but I was sure. In my final year, I got married–I insisted on staying with Maa to complete my degree.

 
My husband was a manager at a firm; we were a middle class family. I wanted to help & thought, ‘Why shouldn’t I work?’ I began job hunting & was hired as a teacher. 

 
But a married woman going to work was unusual–neighbours would stare & relatives would taunt. Even my mom-in-law snubbed me. But my husband said, ‘I support you.’

 
I loved my job & worked even when I was pregnant with my kids; 2 daughters & a son. My work timings clashed with their school timings. So, my husband would cook breakfast & drop them to school. 

 
For us, every penny mattered–so after school, I’d walk to save the 50p rickshaw fee. I saved for my kids' education–‘That’s the only asset that’s gotten me so far,’ I’d say. When my son was preparing for his engineering exam, I begged our landlady for an extra room so he could study better.

 
When my daughter, Aarti was getting married, she was also in her final year & was to move to New York after. I told her, ‘Ghumna phirna, lekin waha jaa ke padhai poori karna!’ So, after her maternity break, Aarti completed her Masters. And she passed on the same wisdom to her daughter, Radhika. Today, Aarti is a school principal & Radhika, the CEO of a company!

After working for 36 years, I retired in 2000. I enjoy doing the little things like cooking & reading stories to my grandkids. At 80, I’m still involved with my school to improve the quality of education.
As women, the best heirloom we can give our daughters is to let them know they can be, do & achieve anything. Our girls today are the women of tomorrow–it’s our responsibility to raise them to know that they are enough.”

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On the 75th Anniversary of the @unitednations , HOB with @unwomen is championing the voices of women & girls of India to ensure that they are heard, seen & treated as equals. #GenerationEquality

Burning Desire

You can easily cultivate a burning desire to do the things that you don’t like doing. It’s quite simple really.

Just relate the outcome of something you don’t like doing to something that you truly desire.

During the JEE preparation, I sacrificed all parties and outings with friends and gave my everything to JEE studies. This was not because I had a burning desire to study. It was because I really desired the outcome of the JEE preparation - a good IIT, which would improve my career.

I did not find myself interested in computer science during my B.Tech, but I still ensured my grades never suffered. This was not because I had a burning desire to code, but because I could relate good grades in my mind as a pathway to good foreign internship opportunities to explore the world, and a good MBA college.

I don’t work hard as a consultant now because I have a burning desire to consult, but because I desire a successful career. I want to be good at what I do.

Whenever you pick up an activity which you don’t like doing, just think about why you picked up that activity in the first place. If there is absolutely no desirable outcome of that activity, then you are probably wasting your time doing that activity anyway.

But if there is an outcome that you desire, then you are not spending time doing an activity you don’t like, but you are spending time working towards an outcome you want. That thought should be enough to generate a burning desire in your mind.

Desire is, after all, just a trick of the mind and the heart.

 

-Rohan Jain,CSE IITK'15, IIMA Batch of 2015-17

Feeling Low

You wake up. You are in a grey prison cell.

You have been convicted of a terrible crime. You will either spend the rest of your life in this jail cell or suffer a more severe fate.

The bars to the room keep you contained for 23 hours a day. Your cell is 10 feet by 10 feet. There is little to do besides read a book.

A prison guard will walk by and look at you every hour for the rest of your life.

The other prisoners will make vulgar noises late into the night that keep you from sleeping. You will share a public toilet in full view of the other prisoners.

You’ll be subjected to full body inspections on a regular basis.

You will never hug any family members again. You will never be able to pursue your dreams. You will never hold your own child in your arms.

You will never eat good food again. You will never sit outside and watch the sun set or rise again in this life.

On more than one occasion you will be forced to fight other prisoners.

Every dark and terrible day will repeat itself as you spend every second of the rest of your life rotting in this cage.

Now pause.

Step away from this reality.

Look around the room you actually sit in.

Look at the colors. The doorways without bars. The door that isn’t locked. The privacy you enjoy. All those little boring things you’ve taken for granted.

Consider all the greater things: Your free will, your health, your family, and your freedom.

They are all yours.

And now — consider the dark reality just described.

And if that doesn’t work, consider darker realities.

Happiness is merely an exercise in appreciation for the things that we have.

 

-Sean Kernan

 

10 Bad Habits You Should STOP Immediately

1. Stop pleasing everyone. Follow your own convictions, NOT what others expect from you.
2. Stop pampering yourself. Growth is found OUTSIDE your comfort zone.
3. Stop being distracted. We are the most distracted generation in history. No FOCUS, no results.
4. Stop relying on others. Your mama won’t save you anymore. NOTHING is free in life. Take accountability for your future.
5. Stop expecting instant satisfaction. Patience, PERSISTENCE and perspiration are your best friends.
6. Stop relying on motivation to act. Create the daily HABITS that will lead to achieving your goals.
7. Stop abusing your body. Eat HEALTHY, and you will look healthy, feel healthy and think healthily. Eat junk and you will feel like junk.
8. Stop surrounding yourself with negative people. We can’t change people, but we CAN change the people that we surround ourselves with.
9. Stop resisting change. Staying stuck in the past has PAINFUL consequences.
10. Stop fearing failure. If you are not failing, you are not trying HARD enough.

#BeBusinessSmart

 

-Hector Quintanilla

What Do People Underestimate Often?

Imagine one of your friends posts this picture on her social media.

Ugh, look at her body, you think to yourself. I wish I was as beautiful as her.

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The next day, you see she posts this picture with the caption “my unbiological sisters, love you girls”

Look at all her friends, she's so lucky. I wish I had friends like that.

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A few days later, this photo shows up in your feed, with another caption reading “being in love is the most amazing feeling <3”.

Of course, she has a hot boyfriend too. Can she get any better?

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Later that night, you are laying awake thinking about her again.

I wish I was like her. Pretty. Popular. In love. She just has it all.

She's perfect.

Her life is perfect.

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The reality is that nobody has the so-called perfect life we hear about all the time.

For the sake of this answer, let's say the hypothetical girl above lost her mother to a terminal illness when she was only 4.

She feels like she grew up without a mother. Every night, she lays awake missing the mother she never even knew. She even wishes she was like you, that she had a mother like you do. She would take a mother over any amount of friends.

But you don't know that.

She paints a picture of having the perfect life to others. She doesn't want anyone else to see the ugly, darker side to her life.

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What I am saying is that everyone is going through their own battle. Everyone has a dark secret(s). Everyone has something that keeps them up at night. Everyone has something they would change in their life.

Just some people hide it more than others. They feel like the only way people will like them is if they seem perfect, so they only show you the good bits.

I once knew a family. They travelled the world, were basically rich, had 2 happy kids and the parents had an amazing relationship.

I was shocked when I got to know that the mother’s ex-husband murdered her third child and is behind bars. Their life seemed perfect to an outsider, but you can only imagine what the family must go through mentally everyday.

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What do people underestimate often?

We underestimate how many people out there are going through something we don't know about.

We underestimate how much the seemingly “perfect” person could be going through deep down.

We underestimate life.

If someone tells you they have a perfect life, well then they're lying.

You can't make assumptions about people only from what you see on the outside.

Always be kind to others. You never know what they might be going through beneath the mask of “perfection”.

 -Amy Smith,Aspiring writer, teenager

 

Graduated from ECE & Wana Work at Top Companies?

 

This story preety well sums up about me. I am 2017 passed out from ECE stream. Though I passed out from NIT, due to lack of my communication and HR skills I couldn't fetch a good job in campus placement and ended up in IBM with mere 3.2LPA + 50K(bonus). Obviously I was not happy with my placement and at the time may be bit luck factor also didn't work for me(got rejected in almost 6–7 companies in HR round due to poor speaking skills and may be almost 30 companies in in between rounds).

I left college with heavy heart but I earned one thing, a bunch of good frnds that's it. I joined my first company in sept 2017 and there also was hoped for getting a good set of skills so that I can switch easily to other companies later on but ended up with mainframe technology (we all know how outdated this tech is!!). I was devastated with my life that why the hell all the wrong is happening with me. That was even okay, few of my college friends also joined IBM and I thought at the end of my training atleast I will be in Bangalore and will get good job opportunities there and friends are also there, but god had some other plans for me. I ended up getting my project in Chennai. There I didn't had a single friend to even talk to, on weekends as well(Can imagine have gone to Chennai beaches alone few a times initially). Though I have a good skill, I make myself comfortable with people. I made few friends there and was enjoying life with what I had, and hoping to switch job whenever possible. Fast forward to Oct 2018 I got a call from Qualcomm for an engineer role in Hyderabad. Since I am from ECE and knew from college days Qualcomm is google for ECE engineers. I didn't hope to clear even the first round, frankly speaking I still couldn't forget the college scene so couldn't hoped that I can ended up in such a good companies. I came to Hyderabad and went through the interview, the interviewers were quite good there(they are my colleagues now ;) ) at the end of the day after 4 rounds of technical interview I got a feedback that I can leave for the day as I had flight to Chennai around 8:00 PM. I thought it's a complete rejection as few of the interviewer don't say directly that you are rejected. I was sad it's not because I couldn't crack the job but because I didn't thought to clear a single round and manage till 4th round and ultimately got rejected.

Then the next week I was continuing with the same normal routine in office and suddenly I got a call from Qualcomm HR that the feedback is quite good for me and they want to take one more round of technical interview and the interview would be that week itself and would be skype/telephonic. I went through the interview and this time I couldn't guess how the interview went for me, I would say kind of 50:50 it was as there were few deep java concepts which I couldn't properly explain other than that I was able to handle the interview and gave the answers aptly, still not sure if would get selected or not. After one week or so I got a call from the HR that I was selected and they sent me the offer letter. Most surprising thing you know what, in college I got rejected for a 6–7 LPA CTC numerous times and here I couldn't believe the salary package they offered for 1.5 years experience guy was 18–23LPA(can't disclose the exact CTC due to disclosure tnc) and the very next moment my last 1.5 years of professional journey and last 1 year of college placement hustle was flashing into my mind and I was literally crying that how many bad days I had went through to get something good for me but was happy that my hardwork paid off at last. I learnt from it that God always have a better plan and you just have to keep patience and faith on yourself and your abilities and be truthful to yourself. Now I am working in Qualcomm from last 1.8 years and I am happy with the work.

Now coming to the ques:

1. Try to always learn something which generally companies ask like DS and algo, Design pattern (generally good product based companies focus in this) , any one of the programming language java, Python etc. (Your knowledge is something and cracking the interview needs something else of you)
2. Be strong with your thought process and always see where you want to go(may be kind of technology)
3. Practice good amount of competitive coding questions to crack the coding rounds.
4. Before going for interview for a particular company research about the kind of ques they ask(will be easily available in internet)

All the best 🙂

New points added:

5. Make a good connection over linkedin irrespective of you know someone or not just make the relevant connection. Many of the recuritors are out there and you just need to see your LinkedIn feed, you will get good amount of opportunities there (this is really really helpful, for me now I am getting calls from the best companies in hardware and software sector in LinkedIn but I am not looking for a change now).

 

-Swarn Singh,Software Engineer at Qualcomm (2019–present)

Most of Us Do This, Right?

When the tube is brand new, we don’t even look at it when squeezing out the paste. We use it lavishly as we indolently think or dream about some random things.

Later, when it is going to be empty, we suddenly become careful. We focus on it while squeezing, put in all the energy and value every blob.

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The sad thing is that this very thing happens in life (and with life) as well.

At the beginning, when we have something in free-flow amount—love, money, eyesight, wealth, water, time, energy—we take it for granted and never give the value it deserves. Towards the end, just when we are about to lose it, we realise its true value and feel like fighting the world to not let it go.

This is one of hardest lessons in life that life teaches us the hard way.

So, let’s all appreciate ‘what we have’, before it turns into ‘what we had’.

 

  

-Srinath Nalluri

Let’s Start With a Picture

can you guess?

who is she?

why I am posting her picture here?

let me tell you some background details of this picture girl:

Roshani Bhadoriya is a resident of Anjal, a small village in Vind district of Madhya Pradesh. Her father is a farmer. she is sincere and wanted to study but there is a problem. There is no high school in her village, she didn’t lose hope, admitted to a high school, 12KM far away with her home. but again, how to go reach there as there is no bus facility by which she can go for the study. she decided not to give up. She bought a bicycle and started her study. she uses to padel her cycle 24 KM every day. so that she can go to school and study well.

yesterday, 10th results announced, and guess what?.

She has secured 98.75 percent marks and 8th rank in the merit list of the Madhya Pradesh Board of Secondary Education’s Class 10 exams.

Roshani said her aim is to clear the civil service exams and become an IAS officer. I wish for her success.

She is an inspiration to the entire village, even MP.

Salute to her dedication and commitment.

If this doesn't inspire you. no one will.

Image source: Google

Thank you.

 

-Avinash Kumar Mehta, IIT Bombay (PhD), IIT Kharagpur (M. Tech.), AIR 60(GATE'17)

 

I Want To Be Their Hero!

 

After my father passed away, I came to Delhi with maa and my brothers. Bhaiya used to work in a nearby factory and made enough to take care of us and pay my school fees. ⁣

 
But before the lockdown, he went to Jaipur for some work and I noticed that Maa used to be tense all the time. She wouldn't tell me anything but I understood that we had a money problem. Ghar ka ration khatam ho raha tha; Maa would sometimes skip her dinner. My younger brother was also sick.⁣

 
I wanted to do something to help and since my school was closed, I had plenty of time. One day when I saw a vegetable vendor in my area, I got the idea of selling vegetables in a pull ca

rt! Maa was hesitant at first, but when I promised her I’d be safe, she helped me hire a cart! ⁣

Every morning, at 4am, I go to Khalsa mandi and fill my cart with fresh stock. The market is usually very crowded– so, social distancing becomes difficult. I somehow manage to juggle through the crowd and head to the nearby households. Sometimes people say, ‘Beta, itne chote ho– aap kaam kyu karte ho?’

 

     

         But I’m always smiling because I’m helping Maa! My first day earning was Rs. 1000– I was very happy! I gave all the money to Maa and she used it to buy ration for us. ⁣

 
I remember, at first, I was very hesitant to talk to customers. Mujhe bahut darr lagta tha, but they were all so nice to me that I opened up to them. We ask each other about our family and a few of them even give me gifts!⁣

 
So this is what I’m doing now, but someday, I’ll join the army, serve my country and make everybody proud of me! Especially my family– I want to be their hero!”

 

 

 

Realization

A few hours ago I was sitting with my mother-in-law, wife and two daughters. I was like, jeez, I'm surrounded by some damn intelligent females.

My mother-in-law has 5 degrees in subjects as varied as Mandarin and Economics, my wife graduated from Oxford, my eldest daughter is perhaps the youngest person ever to have attained 5 A*s in her IGCSEs (16+ exams), when she was 12, and my youngest daughter is likely the youngest girl ever to have achieved an A* in Maths IGCSE, which she did when she was 8.

I then thought if you add the women in my birth family - my mother, who attained a scholarship to each of the several high schools she attended, and my sister, also an Oxford grad, I have been dealing with intelligent women all my life!

It hit me that none of them are as obsessed as most women I know about how they look, even though one was a part-time model. They like to look nice, but it's a minor aspect of their lives.

We live in a world where the media, and men in general, strongly encourage women to value their physical appearance more than anything else.

But these women value their minds most. That's a good thing, and it has been key to their achievements.

   -Asim Qureshi

Stop Creating False Beliefs in Your Mind