I'm not able to study at home due to corona lock down. Everyone's there at home and there is a lot of disturbance.

I will let you know my story so that you can relate it!

Basically, I live in a slum area of Kandivali and there always a noise disturbance around

I used to go to the library and study for my 1st drop-in neet preparation(which cost me my health and I was really not studying there properly, means effectively ) as the library was 1 hour far with bus

So, in neet 2018 my preparation was not that good, I was scoring fewer marks in my test, confidence was zero, and my health condition was worse!

I used to study in the library for 13 hours with just a single meal a day!

Now my neet 2017 marks were 215 (after 12th board my first attempt) and my 2018 marks were 479

That year I missed my government college cut off by 10 marks and I failed

That day I realized that nobody hell will listen to you if you are not selected, no one will understand your situation, no one will support you until and unless you are some special topper, no one will see your problems!

That changed my life

I prepared for neet 2019 and this time I studied in my home with all that f*cking bullshit noise issues and all which all think that it's a problem and give excuses! I studied effectively

So, this is the place where I studied, for my preparation

And scored

624 in neet 2019 and chooses Mumbai top medical college

So, my advise is that!

Don't find an excuse, find a solution!

REGARDS

VIKAS CHOUDHARY

KAIZEN ✍

Never share your next move to the whole world

Never share your next move to the whole world. Be mysterious, unpredictable and focused. That is one of the best techniques to improve ourselves. Certainly, it enhances our concentration level also.
 

Suppose, if you say to the whole world, “ I am writing my first novel.” You will never reach your goal or not even finish your few chapters of your manuscript. Or, if you want to establish your start-up company, don’t tell it too much to other people, just do it. Keep your passion secret inside you.

Generally success comes with hard work, sincere effort and intense concentration. If you share your next plan to the world by social media or other ways, your mind will be distracted by several ways. Even someone may joke with you to your goal, someone disbelieve, or someone may encourage you. But these things will take away your focus from your work.

Remember one thing, “Empty vessel sounds much”. Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Roger Federer, J.K Rowling-all the successful people had never shared their passion or next move to the world too much before getting success.

So, you may have lots of amazing ideas, plan, vision, ambition or passion. My advice is that work hard with smart way to achieve your goal. Nobody needs to know what you are doing.

Your passion and emotion is involved with only you, not the world. If you have the confidence in yourself, put your all dedication and effort in your passion instead of publicity. One day you will be rewarded and got several compliments beyond your imagination.

Stay focused and stay determined. Don't look to anyone else to be your determination - have self-determination. It will take you very far. -Justice Smith

-Shovan Chowdhury

IIT Tirupati

Let us look at the facilities on by one

1. Campus- The permanent(currently transit campus) is situated in the tirupati-venkatagiri road .The transit campus is situated in 30 acres with 6 hostel blocks (1 for girls,5 for boys),2 classroom complexes,1 computer lab,library,1 dining hall,basketball,volleyball courts,cricket,football grounds and an indoor stadium with 3 badminton courts,3 table tennis boards and a fully equipped gym with a trainer .It also has an State Bank of India ATM .The campus has an pleasant and peaceful atmosphere with a lot of greenery all around the campus.

2.Hostels-

All the hostels are newly built buildings. The management provide you with a bed,study table,a chair and a almirah. The toilets are common for every floor.They also provide a washing machine to each floor,a water purifier.A common room and a study room for each block and WIFI routers in each and every floor of all the blocks.

3.Dinning facility-

The dinning hall located in the transit campus can accommodate a total of 350 students at a stretch.The menu is maintained by the mess management committee and the mess secretary.

4.Classroom complex-

The classroom complex is a recently built building that started working from the January of 2020 .It consists of classrooms of kind 40 seater,60 seater and 120 seater.

The classroom is a 60 seater classroom.

5.Sports Facilities-

IIT Tirupati transit campus has a cricket ground,football ground,basketball and volleyball courts along with a tennis court.The indoor facility contains 3 badminton courts,2 table tennis courts and a fully equipped Gym with a trainer.Coaches are available for all the kinds of sports that are available in the campus.

6.Clubs & Fests-

IIT Tirupati has various kinds of clubs thoe are coordinated by students body itself.Various clubs in IITT are

1.PFC-Photography&films club

2.Sargam club-Singing club

3.Actomania, Aranya and etc.

-The annual fest of IIT Tirupati is TIRUTSAVA. Tirutsva will be held during the last week of January or in the first week of February. This fest completely organised by the student body itself.

Finally I conclude that every one whogets into IIT Tirupati can get all the facilities that are provided in the older iit's. The computer labs has a very highly configured systems,the faculty are highly qualified and very well experienced in their respective domains,so therefore one should see the opportunities to learn.

The construction of the of the permanent campus has also begun in a staged manner.

-Dheeraj Chilukuri, BTech from Indian Institute of Technology Tirupati (2023)

Personality Disorders do not go away on their own

Personality Disorders do not go away on their own. We have to work very hard to change them.

Why don’t they go away on their own?

The thinking patterns, coping mechanisms, behaviors, and deficits that are associated with the personality disorder are encoded in the brain as a set of maladaptive habits. As these habits started in early childhood and have been practiced over and over again, they are now the person’s automatic fallback responses.

This is somewhat similar to being born left handed, but being forced to use your right hand for everything since childhood. In the beginning, this will feel unnatural and awkward. By adulthood, the brain will have created multiple neuronal networks that support using the right hand automatically.

Becoming right handed does not wear off with time. Instead it feels normal and natural. The person would have to work very hard to stop their automatic right handed responses and relearn how to use their left hand for everything.

How do you change these maladaptive personality disorder habits?

Step 1—Bring the habits into awareness.

The whole point of forming habits is to free up our cognitive capacity to deal with novelty. Anything we do repetitively is no longer novel. It would be a great waste of time if we could not form habits because we would have to make 100’s of decisions every day.

To change a habit (which by virtue of being a habit is now automatic and done without awareness), we have to bring it into awareness.

Step 2—Make a decision.

Once you realize that you have been habitually and automatically doing a particular behavior without thought, you can revisit this behavior and decide if you want to change it.

Step 3—Decide on a more productive behavior.

You cannot just give something up. You need to decide what you want to do instead. This involves thinking about possible alternative behaviors that would improve your life and choosing one to replace the maladaptive old one you are giving up.

Step 4—Inhibit the old behavior and substitute the new.

Now we are up to the hard part. We have to stay aware. We cannot rely on our first response to situations because that is the response we want to change. When we are tempted to do what feels natural, we have to stop, and substitute the new behavior. We may have to do this 100’s of times for each new habit we want to form.

Why is this so hard?

Imagine you are on a nice big smooth road through the jungle. It is very simple to get through the jungle by staying on this road. Unfortunately, it does not go where you want to go. Every time you take it, you end up someplace you do not want to be.

To get where you want to go, you have to hack a new road through the jungle. Every foot is hard. You have to cut down trees and use a machete to chop away bushes and anything else in your way.

This is very hard work and it may take years to complete. It is very tempting to take the easy path instead, the one you do automatically. It takes grit, persistence, and lots of motivation to keep building the new road.

Punchline: Once you have a personality disorder, you will have it forever unless you are willing to do the hard work necessary to change. Personality disorders can be thought of as deeply ingrained habits—and we all know how hard it is to change our habits.

Elinor Greenberg, PhD, CGP

Signs of Narcissistic Household

• Nothing of what you do is correct.

You must not talk, but you must not be silent. You must not disagree, but when you agree, they change the plan. You must not show emotions, but you must not keep a neutral face. You cannot succeed but you must not fail, and average results are not accepted.

• You are required to accept anything happening to you.

You must pretend everything is fine when nothing is. You are not allowed to stop smiling no matter how broken you are. You must never call them out on anything. You have no right.

• Always listen, speak only when asked to do so.

They do not want to hear you unless you talk to approve what they say, or to say what they want you to say.

• You are not allowed to choose anything.

The narcissist always knows better than everyone about everything and is the only one able to choose. You cannot trust your reasoning to make choices, because they know better than you what is good (i.e. bad) for you.

• Everything you say, think, feel, want, like or are interested in, is wrong.

The narcissist will never agree with you on anything. When you agree with them, they change their opinion to keep disagreeing with you. You must not contradict them because they are always right and you are always wrong.

• Your needs are irrelevant.

They are an inconvenience to the narcissist. Their attention is all drawn to themselves, and yours must be all drawn to them too.

• Nothing is what you think it is.

You are the delusional one. Your memories are all twisted, your perception of reality is twisted, you do not actually feel what you think you feel, you are not sick when you feel and say you are, you need nothing of what you think you need, and they never abused you, you only imagined it all. They will always cover up their abuse and make sure no one believes you, including yourself.

• Everything is your fault.

Every wrong thing they did is blamed on you. You either caused them to do it, did it yourself, deserved it, or it was not that bad and you are overreacting.

Divorce

When I was six my friend told me she wasn't allowed to come over to my house to play because my parents were divorced.

She said the word "divorce" like it was dirty.

I went home and asked my mom if divorce was contagious.

Despite what everyone was saying, my parents went ahead and split up anyway.

This is how I learned very early in life that the pursuit of your own happiness trumps what anyone may or may not be saying about you.

This incident occurred about 40 years ago. In that time, I've learned a lot more about gossip.

Here is a summary:

People talk less about you than you think. They have the audacity to be too preoccupied with themselves to be concerned about you.

Why do people gossip? Because tearing someone else down is evidence that you are unhappy with a part of your own life. The happier you are, the less you will criticize someone else, and the more empathy you will feel for what they are going through.

What someone says about you when they are unhappy with themselves is more about them than it is about you. As such, it's not ever a good guide for how to live your life. Don't make decisions based on what others might think or say. It will steer you wrong every time.

The busier you are working on you, your life and your happiness, the less time you will have to talk about others.

And even better, the less time you will have to show any concern for what others say about you.

I am a deeply flawed person. I have a lot of work to do and as such I have no time to waste.

To directly answer your question, I neither know nor am worried about anything anyone has to say about me, true or otherwise; and neither should you.

-Dushka Zapata

Salary of Indian post office clerk?

It's not clerk but it's called Assistant, I mean Postal assistant. I joined as a postal assistant in october 2018 through CHSL2016(combined higher secondary level examination 2016). As we know it's 2400gp post so its basic pay is 25,500. I got posting in kolkata & it is in X city, So I got highest salary of postal assistant in this city. When I joined in this department, my first month inhand salary was 34,879. After that I got increment & DA has been increased by central government. So at present my inhand salary is 37,913 & gross salary is 41,295 in x city. Salary depends on the city.(X, Y, Z)

For better experience I show you my salary slip:

-Kanhaiya Kumar Mehta, Assistant at India Post (2018-present)

{Blogger's  Note : You can give SSC CHSL after 12 and get a job in postal assistant or clerk }

What is the biggest source of motivation for IES preparation?

Don't you ever imagine, what changes you could have made if you could make a trip to your past?

Then why do something unimportant in present to think the same in future?

We always think about making our life meaningful and beautiful in some or the other way. We all enjoy and cherish our childhood without any purpose or fear. But now when we grow up, with wisdom and a proper mindset, one must attach a purpose to his or her life.

Life should not end with a bundle of regrets, rather it should be a book of gratitude and moments of feeling proud of not giving up , sacrificing little pleasures and working hard to achieve everything you aspired for.

If you attach that feeling to ESE, then during times of demotivation, remember it is not going to be easy.

But giving up is for the coward, Respect time, unleash your potential and start studying again.

Had it been so easy, everyone could have cleared it. More than preparing for the exam, you need to prepare your mind every single day to stick to your goal. Develop that inner strength.

If you are exhausted, stop for a while. We all need to relax and rejuvenate. But begin again with double the zeal.

So according to me, the biggest source of motivation is the meaning and purpose you attach to a thing or goal.

If something is important, it is important. All the excuses will hold no place.

Always remember, what your capacity is not able to achieve, your willpower will.

All the best

-Shuchita Arora, UPSC ESE AIR 16

Achieving something really splendid,requires enormous efforts and patience as well

Achieving something really splendid,requires enormous efforts and patience as well.

My class 12th:

I left my class 11th hostel and took a rented room with a friend. All the beautiful memories of class 11th hostel, all close friends and the comfortable environment of my hostel: all I had to leave. Only thing in mind was to crack medical entrance exam

1. My roommate was not studious. He just wanted to get a good percentage. Bit friction occured between both of us.
2. I had to lock myself for studies since in 11th I did not study much. I had to cover that too. you can understand the stress of covering 11th, 12th, board, medical entrance and engineering entrance in 1 year
3. We could not afford a good house or cook. Each day we had to struggle for food. I was missing the comfort of hostel.
4. I tried to avoid my close friends in hostel for 1 year many often.

That 1 year was like 1 lifetime. Each minute was a moment of struggle: related to studies, friends, food, accommodation.

Only thing that helped me was patience and consistent effort .

And finally I cracked both medical and engineering entrance exam and got into IIT Kharagpur.

This is the power of patience.

Were all those sacrifices worth it? Hell yeah

Life is a full circle. Again the time came.

Civil services preparation:

June 2016:

I put my best effort. Yet I could not qualify for 6 marks.

I had to restart everything from scratch.

June 2017:

I put everything possible this time. Last time I could not qualify just because of 6 marks. I put my heart into it. But again I failed.

It feels so disheartening when your whole year goes to waste. I thought to leave the preparation and work on my Start up full time. My personal life was at stake. My family's financial condition deteriorated.

Amidst all these distractions and struggles somehow my close friend persuaded me to give one more attempt. That one year was hell of a time.

It takes immense grit to get back to studies and study the same books, notes.

April 27 2018:

Finally patience paid off. I got into Indian Administrative service. (IAS)

Whenever I look back I see two things. If you want to achieve something big in your life, you need equal amount of effort and time.

So patience is the key. It keeps you motivated amidst all the negativities and it keeps you moving towards your goal.

Stay positive and work hard in right direction. You will win.

      -Abinash Mishra

Success...........

Once Ramakrishna Paramahansa (teacher of Swami Vivekananda) sent two of his students to dig a well to get water.

First student dug for 1 metre in a place. Then left it thinking this place is too dry to get water. He dug for another 1 metre. Then again he did not get water. He left this one too. He kept on digging at several places and abandoned those after little effort. So finally he returned with huge disappointment with the excuse that this place is too dry to get water.

The second student dug for 1 metre. He found rock. It was difficult to dig. But he kept on doing. He found harder rock as he keep on digging. He got exhausted, but he did not leave hope. He kept on digging. After digging 99 metre deep, there lied the hardest rock. For a while he thought how can there be water beneath such hard rock. He was bit dillusioned with exhaustion.

 But he remembered his teacher's conviction of getting water at that place. He came back strongly. He removed the hardest rock with his full energy. And underneath this he found water.

To get success Patience and hard work are must. Complete focus and dedication over one thing for a substantial time.

-Abhinash Mishra