Saturday, 2 November 2019

Do things alone and do it often

 Do things alone and do it often - Go shopping alone, go travelling alone and tell yourself you’re doing very well, alone. I’m not saying you don’t need people but explore things alone, once in a while.

-  Saranya Ravichandran

I was teaching 6th grade at that time. I had a young girl (she was about 10 or 11 years of age) who was a very gifted student but very quiet. She seldom raised her hand and was very withdrawn. I always wondered why.
One day I was reading a short story from the book “Chicken Soup for the Kid’s Soul”. All of the stories are targeted for young children to pre-adolescents. Most of the stories only took 5 to 10 minutes to read so they are great fillers to have when you have a few unused minutes of class time remaining.
The story I selected was about a young girl who was being molested by her father and how she found the courage to alert a sympathetic adult who helped her get out of that horrible situation.. The message to the children was to encourage them, if they should find themselves in this situation, to not to be afraid to seek help. I also talked to them and told them that if such a thing should happen to them not to be afraid to seek out a teacher they could trust. I emphasized that any teacher in our building would help them.
The bell rang and all the students filed out for lunch. A few minutes later the girl came back into the room and asked if she could speak to me. I said “ Sure, what’s on your mind?” She said “Its about the story you read. I have been…..” and she broke down in sobbing uncontrollably, unable to get the rest of the words out. I asked her if something had happened to her as I described in the story, she nodded through her sobs. I led her to a chair and told her to wait a minute. I ran to the corridor and grabbed one of my female colleagues who was also a good friend of mine. I told her I had a student in my room who I believed had been molested and could she please come with me. She immediately came into the room and hugged that poor girl.
When she got her somewhat under control, we took her to the office. Meanwhile, I called her mom. (Her mom and I knew each other from interactions throughout the school year so I felt a familiar face would help her get through this.). She immediately came to the school and I told her what we suspected. Of course she was devastated. She broke down in my arms. I held her and said that she needed to pull herself together for her daughter. She wiped her eyes and went into the office. That’s when they discovered the details of what had actually happened.
We subsequently found out she had been sexually molested repeatedly by her uncle. She was so ashamed she hid it from her parents, even when the situation escalated. Unfortunately he was now going after her younger sister! That’s when she knew she had to do something and the story I read gave her that impetus. Her instinct to protect and care for her sibling kicked in.
I think of her often. She is an adult now and I hope the situation didn’t leave her with any lasting trauma. I hope she has adjusted well and is happy. Later, her mom sent me a heartfelt note thanking me for what I had done (I really didn’t do much….I just did what any adult would have done…). Included in that package was a copy of a form filled out by the student nominating me for national “Teacher of the Year”. (If you’re wondering, I didn’t make it…)

-Michael Dibiasio

Friday, 1 November 2019


Do not abuse your rights - Every time you abuse your rights in the name of feminism, it could knowingly or unknowingly have an impact on someone who genuinely needs it. Never take your womanhood for granted!
 

-Saranya Ravichandran

Geniuses.............


Laszlo Polgar performed an experiment to raise a child as a genius and proved to the world that geniuses are not born but made.

Somewhere in the 1960s, Laszlo Polgar presented a theory that great performers are made and not born. He believed that he could raise a genius himself. When he tried to present his intentions, the local government asked him to see a psychiatrist. But Laszlo remained undeterred, stood by his opinion and made it his lifetime goal to confirm his theory.

To start, he needed a wife. In 1965, he started approaching women, explaining his intent. A Ukranian lady named Klara found his concept intriguing and agreed to be a part of the experiment. Soon after, in 1969, Klara Polgar gave birth to a child whom the couple named Susan Polgar.

The experiment began in 1970 where Laszlo Polgar decided to homeschool Susan and teach her chess. The reason for choosing Chess was because it had a clear objective and ranking. In other fields like writing or acting, people can debate if a person is truly world-class or not. However, the chess ranking system determines if a person is the best player in the world or not.



Laszlo himself was a mediocre chess player at best, but he left no stone unturned to help his daughter develop expertise in the game. Susan was hooked by the game and practiced intensively every day. 

By the age of 5 years, she had amassed tons of practice already. Her father decided to have Susan participate in a local chess competition where most of the participants were more than twice her age.

At age 5, Susan decimated all her opponents by winning the tournament with a 10-0 score. In another tournament, where the participants were adults, people joked about Susan participating by saying she could barely reach the table. Susan beat several adult participants in the event making the naysayers take their words back.

As the years went by, Susan turned into an expert chess player. By 1984, she had become the top-ranked female chess player in the world at a tender age of 15. She was the first woman to qualify for the Men’s World Championship in 1986. She went on to achieve the coveted title of a grandmaster in 1991. She became the first woman in history to win the Chess triple crown.

Now, you might assume that Susan was born as a genius due to some stroke of luck. But it was not only the first daughter of Laszlo and Klara Polgar who dominated chess. Their second daughter, Sofia and the third, Judit Polgar achieved extraordinary success too.

Sofia Polgar, went on to become the sixth top female chess player in the world. She won several tournaments and medals like her elder sister, Susan. Among her other achievements, Sofia is well known for the “Sack of Rome”.

During a tournament in Rome held in 1989, she won the event with a score of 8.5 out of 10 which had several other grandmasters. Sofia was only 14 at that time. The experts rate Sofia’s performance in the tournament as the fifth-best ever in the history of chess. Her chess skills would have put any normal chess player to shame, but unfortunately, the other two sisters overshadowed her achievements.

Judit Polgar, the best female chess player in history




Finally came Judit Polgar, born in 1976, who achieved the highest results among the three sisters. Born after two sisters already proficient in chess, Judit naturally found herself in the atmosphere of the game. Judit is considered the strongest female chess player of all time.

Judit was the fastest to achieve the title of a grandmaster, men and women included, at the age of 15 years and 4 months, a record earlier held by the well known Bobby Fischer. She was the youngest player to break into the top 100 players at the age of only 12.

When Judit showed exceptional chess prowess at a young age, Garry Kasparov had commented saying, “She has fantastic chess talent, but she is, after all, a woman. It all comes down to the imperfections of the feminine psyche. No woman can sustain a prolonged battle.”


However, in 2002, Judit beat Kasparov, after which he walked out of the table with angst apparent on his face. The incident made him change his opinion about the effect of gender on chess. Until then, many male players believed that gender-based limitations exist in chess and some continue to believe that today.


Judit has also defeated various other world champions such as Vladimir Kramnik, Vishwanathan Anand, Anatoly Karpov and many more.


Judit Polgar’s trophies and victories in chess are too many to list. Some of her records remain intact till date today. She is the only woman to win against a reigning world number 1. No other woman except Judit has qualified for a World Championship event. She is the only woman to have crossed a score of 2700 Elo points.


Laszlo Polgar managed to prove his theory right after many decades of effort, both his own and that of his daughters’. His effort is called as one of the most amazing experiments in the history of human education. He believes that when a child is born healthy, it is a potential genius. Whether that happens or not depends on the upbringing and the effort put in.

-Maxim Dsouza

Thursday, 31 October 2019

Don’t let anyone or anything break you - Whether it’s family, love, lust, society, rules, be it anything - simply, don’t let anyone dull your sparkle, shine brighter and brighter with every hurdle

 
-Saranya Ravichandran

“I worked really hard and yet I failed”.



“I worked really hard and yet I failed”.

This is one of the most common line I have ever heard from people.
Most people assume that one cannot achieve success despite 
putting in the hard work and success really depends on luck.

However the real problem is that most people cannot distinguish between manual labor and actual hard work.

Most people are stuck doing manual labor which fetches them no result.

Success on the other hand highly depends on what I call “High Impact Activities”.

A majority of people ignore these “High Impact Activities” because they are “Hard”.

Now don’t get me wrong, here hard activities does not mean they take effort, its just that they are least pleasant to do.

Hence people try avoiding these activities and focus all their energy and effort on low impact activities.

Lets take an example for both HIA and LIA:
In business context:

HIA: Cold calling customers, selling them products on the phone or reaching out to new customers, following up new leads.

LIA: Designing logo for your website, spending time to learn so called “productivity tips” from YouTube after wasting hours on designing the logo which you could have outsourced on fiver for $5.

In a student context:

HIA: Focusing on the most important yet hard topics and understanding them thoroughly.

LIA: Spending more time on easier topics, topics which you already know well.

In a newbie programmers context:

HIA: Working on a personal project which involves building something.

LIA: Reading and searching for answers on sites, deciding which code editor to use, debating on which programming language is better.

I hope this gives a clear idea of how High Impact Activities are different from Low Impact Activities.

If you compare them both, you will find that both of them take the same amount of effort to do.

However if you take a look at HIA, they are not very comfortable or pleasing to do.

Designing a logo for your business seems like a nice idea while cold calling a client sounds rough and hence people tend to deviate towards things that are of less importance just because they find pleasure doing them.

High performers on the other end know what activities would create the most impact for them and hence they are willing to do them irrespective of how un-pleasurable they are to do.

Doing hard work does not mean working like a donkey on some simple things.

Here is what hard work looks like:

  1. Deciding and doing something which you know is not pleasurable but can give you the maximum results.
  2. Taking risks in all walks of your life, switching careers if the current one does not pay you well.
  3. Taking hard decisions, making a complete shift in the way you operate and think.
  4. Taking responsibility, hiring people, or learning some new skill which can change the course of your career.
  5. Being able to manage and make the most efficient use of your time.
  6. Being consistent for years doing anything, be it at a business, learning new skills, or working out.
  7. Doing something which you have never done before, or doing something where you are uncertain about the outcome.

These are the actual activities which can be termed as hard work.
The day you understand the difference between manual labor and real hard work is the day when your life would change completely.

-Saurav Sharma

Wednesday, 30 October 2019

You are not responsible for keeping the peace or making sure others are getting along.
You are not responsible for another person’s expectations of you.
You are not responsible for what another person thinks about you.
You are not responsible for how another person behaves.
You are not responsible for getting someone to love you (or even like you.)
You are not responsible for helping, rescuing or saving anyone other than yourself.
You are not responsible for anyone’s happiness (or their emotional state.)
You are not responsible for how your boundaries make another person feel.
You are not responsible for being anyone another person wants you to be.

-Dushka Zapata
Dress comfortably but also respectfully - There’s only a hair line difference between dressing up according to a place and dressing up as we wish. Lot of people misinterpret this and bring this into the topic of feminism, but it’s a basic etiquette irrespective of the gender.
 
-Saranya Ravichandran

Anything wrong with Indian Youths?



Taking ABSOLUTE BULLS**T MOTIVATION

Let me walk you through what i find utter nonsense depiction in many of the videos on Internet regarding Motivating a person.

So recently i came across this video by *coughs* Famous among youth Youtuber “Amit Badhana” named “PADHAKU vs LAST BENCHERS”.



I will not bore you by telling each instance of that video but surely give you the message i want to convey .

From the beginning of the video the “Last Bencher” is shown having fun in skipping the queue for checking of i cards , thinking shit about people who are taking books for study and here’s one -
Here is the scene in which last benchers are having fun when teacher is in the class ….(even i used to do this and it’s normal ) but wait why am i pointing out this and writing this answer then ??
Wait for the ending and u will realise what’s my Point.




Yet again our ‘cool’ Last bencher is shown Cheating in exam ( we all have done this anytime in our life )
then why am i pointing this ?

Again ,wait for the end (Almost there)




So basically summing things up -

This last bencher of ours is not even , for an instance shown working towards anything progressive , working towards any hobby , passion , anything in his college days whereas the other guy is shown constantly studying , not enjoying his life , being mocked by peers for Studying.

Oh for GOD sake now i should tell u the point , it’s getting too much now i belive !!


(Translation : After few years )


A office is shown ( seems pretty decent startup definately not a youtuber or comedian office ) where that Studious guy came for an interview :



and Guess what ????

He met that Back bencher as the CEO of this company. (wtf ?)

and here are his expression




Well first take a look at our CEO (take blessings you readers !)




Wait , whattt????


So this is what is depicted-

You can , in the name of enjoyment hang out with your friends entire time , Don’t ever touch a book and if you do you may somehow fall into category of “not being cool person” , talk rubbish with teachers and after few years something Magical will happen overnight and you will become successful in no time without any efforts !

BOOYAHH !! You all got the MANTRA of success !

Hey young people you got motivated enough now ? now get back to that friend and enjoy your life , hang out , play all the time , don’t dare to touch a book and wait for a MAGIC in the upcoming years to happen ,
but that magic in real life is called ——-


THE MAGIC OF UNEMPLOYMENT !


until and unless you come from a pretty decent family background where there is no survial issue , but for a middle class person this reality is going to hit hard , VERY HARD if you kept going on with such beliefs.

Ending note:
  1. What is shown in these type of videos is far beyond reality and are made so that the youths (95%) can relate to it and laugh cause they are doing the same and these people know your weakness and thus earning lot of money and implanting a cancerous and wrong path in young minds !
  2. In Reality , CEO’s or anyone on the top of their respective fields have worked day and night for Years to master a ‘THING’ , they have mastered a skillset by practicing like hell giving lots and lots of time to that until they achieved the desired thing.
  3. There is no shortcut to Overnight Success , you have to work years and years before turning to the overnight success.


Ps- I too don’t like the current system of mugging things out , but i do know that one should give his time in his respective field of work , whatever they want to be ! Atleast give 200–400 hours in your field and then you may somewhat get a feel of having the desired knowledge in yourself and then get going on the path until you get what you want.

So as per the question :

Desire for success in most shortest way and seeking motivation which depicts exactly what they like to see , match up with their behaviour and routine so that they remain satisfied and not care to push themselves towards their GOAL and blaming every other thing for their downfall is what is wrong with *most* of the Indian Youth.

-Vidhu Bhardwaj

Tuesday, 29 October 2019

Never ever give up on your dreams just because you’re a woman - It’s not easy, but find a way. Even if you take a break, come back on the track and make it happen. Never, ever give up!

 
-Saranya Ravichandran

Monday, 28 October 2019

Book Behind My Success



Here are the pictures of some books in my bookshelf that I have read.






There are equal number of books kept in packed boxes and in other bookshelves.

I have over 200 books on my Kindle.

Nowadays, I read mostly from my Kindle.

All these books have contributed to development of my thoughts.

Yet, none of these books are responsible for my success.

It is the application of the knowledge contained in these books, which has played a positive role in my success.

Just like you can't lose weight by reading a dieting book, you cant active success by reading books written by the most wise and successful people of the world.

You must practice what you learn from the books because the application of knowledge in the right way is the real knowledge which alone can lead you towards success.
   
-Awdhesh Singh,ex-IRS(UPSC-CSE),PhD,M-Tech IIT-D,B.Tech IT-BHU,Author

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